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True... Misery does create a sense of bonding... and there is method in some complaining... but it's true that people who are miserable/unhappy complain to poorer effect than do people who are happier, more mindful (able to focus their thoughts and emotions in the present moment) and with the hope of achieving a particular result.
There are times when it feels like a relief simply to let go and vent. However, doing so on these boards may often not be appropriate. It's much better to find a group of sympathetic friends who know that what one's looking for is ❝sympathy and attention❞. Or - I suppose people could post here, prefacing the bulk of their post with something like this:
❝I'm not looking for a solution, result, or positive outcome. I have to admit it: I am posting here to be a bit of a drama llama, to vent, to garner sympathy, to sob a little and gulp and have people metaphorically pat me on the shoulder and murmur "There, there"... or to have stories of similar outrage posted. I realise not everyone will feel able to give that sort of feedback on this thread; that's okay. But I do respectfully ask that no one post a solution because I am SPITTING CHIPS and I DON'T WANT a solution and I want to VENT like an enraged dyspepsic dragon with acute heartburn. Thank you.❞
@countessalmirena wrote:True... Misery does create a sense of bonding... and there is method in some complaining... but it's true that people who are miserable/unhappy complain to poorer effect than do people who are happier, more mindful (able to focus their thoughts and emotions in the present moment) and with the hope of achieving a particular result.
There are times when it feels like a relief simply to let go and vent. However, doing so on these boards may often not be appropriate. It's much better to find a group of sympathetic friends who know that what one's looking for is ❝sympathy and attention❞. Or - I suppose people could post here, prefacing the bulk of their post with something like this:
❝I'm not looking for a solution, result, or positive outcome. I have to admit it: I am posting here to be a bit of a drama llama, to vent, to garner sympathy, to sob a little and gulp and have people metaphorically pat me on the shoulder and murmur "There, there"... or to have stories of similar outrage posted. I realise not everyone will feel able to give that sort of feedback on this thread; that's okay. But I do respectfully ask that no one post a solution because I am SPITTING CHIPS and I DON'T WANT a solution and I want to VENT like an enraged dyspepsic dragon with acute heartburn. Thank you.❞
I'm not sure about the rest, but the highlighted bit could describe me after a very enjoyable meal in which I ate too much .....
Unfortunately that happens regularly as my lovely other half cooks most of the time, and he serves large, delicious portions which are not very good for either my waistline or digestion.
And he still tells me I'm beautiful ..... shoulda gone to Specsavers
