Buyers with an Intellectual Disability

[izabsmiling]

This is something I have thought of as I have an adult son who has brain damage .I am his carer.

He has asked if I could help him open up an account here to buy things.I have said that between State Trustees and myself we can help him buy things from here when needed (ie;using my account).

He is fortunate to have a carer but I know that many don't have that and there is always the possibility that he could get a friend to help him set up an account without either myself or State Trustees knowledge.

To sellers he just would be a faceless buyer and there could be all sorts of problems for the seller and himself.He may well be awarded the top prize for numptiness .He would not be meaning to be difficult ...he would however need a lot of things explained...though would most likely never tell anyone that himself.

The boards kind of open up my eyes up even more to those possibilities .

Has anyone else faced similar issues or thought about them?

[izabsmiling]

This is a current issue for myself and my son.No doubt I am not the only carer around nor my son the only person who has an intellectual impairment and has a financial guardian.

Naturally in thinking about the pros and cons I will consider all things that may happen.Some things may make the cons list higher 

[izabsmiling]

bump, the reality of some things hit some people like a sledgehammer.

[izabsmiling]

stop pretending that you are posting about some-thing/one else.

I wish more than anything else I was pretending it was about my son.

[izabsmiling]

my mind has been made up.Thanks Bump. It is a no go

[harddrive2012]

Personally, if it was my son or daughter that wanted an account on here, I would let them but I would monitor everything that they do and would help them with buying.

I doubt it would be wise to leave them to themselves to use this site.

[forumfool]

my mind has been made up.Thanks Bump. It is a no go

Oh!! Don't let this stop you or your son.  It may very well be good for him if supervised carefully.  You know him best.  If it is something that can contribute to his sense of independence or well-being then it might very well be a worthwhile experience. 

Hat's off to you for thinking about a way to increase your son's quality of life 🙂

[phorum_junkie*]

I know exactly where you are coming from. As he cannot handle money does he actually have a bank account? If not then that is a completely valid reason for explaining to him that he is unable to have an ebay account without a bank account but that if if he wants to buy something on ebay you would be happy to help.

There are unscrupulous people in this world who would take advantage of him, I have seen this happen many times over the years as I was involved with caring for those with learning disabilities and brain damage most of my working life.

[forumfool]

Could it be helpful to have a Paypal account and/or bank account with a set amount?  

Would it also be possible for him to browse on an ebay account  and put his items on a 'watch list' for you or a trusted carer to purchase?  What do you think he can manage?

[not_an_eloi]

section 3.     ebay user agreement

While using the eBay services, you will not:

use the eBay services if you are not able to form legally binding contracts, are under the age of 18, or are suspended from using the eBay services;

[i-once-was-bump]

section 3.     ebay user agreement

While using the eBay services, you will not:

use the eBay services if you are not able to form legally binding contracts, are under the age of 18, or are suspended from using the eBay services;

Most guardians/careers would be well aware of all the things their charge cannot do if they come under the mental health act.

Legally binding contracts are at the top of the list of no-nos, then comes all paid or honourary positions on committees and so on and so on.

That is why I find this thread unusual.