chuk, thank God you were sent here because you are among understanding friends. I don't know if you've followed this thread in its entireity, but if you haven't then it's a must read form start to finish. Even if all you get out of it is that you are not the only person to be going through what you're going through.
It sucks and it hurts and it's depressing and it may even be making you sick with worry, but you'll be ok.....eventually. It's early days, so for now just go through each day second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. Do what ever it takes, but keep heading forwards when you can. Talk if you want to talk to us, but if you'd rather just lurk then that's ok too. We'll be here when we're needed. cyn X
To cat: remember when i said you'd come across a newbie and their pain will be saw raw you could almost feel it and in that instance you'd be able to see just how far you've come? Well here's your chance. What chuck can only see as a dark cloud, you can see has a glimmer of a silver lining for you. See how strong you have become? Now it's your time to pay it forward.
Together, if we all pitch in and be there for each other, then we'll all be ok. One day :-x