Dead for 8 years and no one knew.

[*crikey*mate*]

But now the vultures circle for this poor old lady's estate.

Inquest into forgotten Sydney woman to turn 'ugly'

[punch*drunk]

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@lloydslights wrote:

Unfortunately, one doesn't need to die alone for the fights to start.  Proceeds of an estate can dwindle by an unhappy relation taking action through Court. 

DEB

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One doesnt even need to have died for the ugliness to start taking place re a persons estate. Bit of a touchy subject for me at the moment 😞

[lind9650]

14 years ago I was suddenly on my own. Husband passed away, children had long flown the nest to other States for work, were married and had children of their own. I had nobody close to me nearby. My utilities, rent and insurance are paid by the Bank, and because I started travelling to visit family and friends, the neighbours never knew if I was at home or not unless I told them before going away.

Whenever I rang one of my family I only got answering machines to leave a message. Most of the time I never got a reply. Everyone to busy and the call slipped their mind. My family even forgot my birthday or Mothers Day most of the time and I am lucky to get a phone call from one of them now and then. If they got no answer from me they would propably think; "Mum is out somewhere", and every time I did get hold of one, they were either having dinner with other people at some Restaurant, in the middle of driving to meet someone or having visitors at the time I rang. So phone calls were always short. I always felt like an intruder on their private life

In the end I gave up ringing, waiting for one of my children to ring me when it was convenient for them.

If I dropped dead at home, nobody would have known for a very long time.

I am lucky that I was blessed to find a new partner and am not alone anymore, and we have good neighbours that look out for one another, -  but I can see how families fall apart in todays hectic life. Some of my grandchildren don't even know eachother. Parents divorced, moved to another State, never kept in touch. I am trying to rectify this and reconnect the missing links, but it is terribly hard. People are so busy making a living, nobody has much time for other family than their own.

Erica

[*crikey*mate*]

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@joz*garage wrote:

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@purple_haize wrote:

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@paintsew007 wrote:

to purple.....this is life i guess. Care factor of zero in most respects. Sad but true.

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Unfortunately we live in a time where nobody really cares about anyone else.......as long as their life is okay, that is all people care about.

still, it is very sad, that she died alone.

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i reckon the more the population grows the less value in life

wow, 8 years, heard stories of 2 years, 'spose it makes no difference to the deceased but its a sad situation isnt it

i wonder how long it would take my rellies to realize if i snuffed it?! probably untill the council sends a work order for over grown weeds

(was just pondering this the other day crikey & reminds me to make a will

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finally, a use for relatives, eh?

keep in touch, they'll get you to the morgue before you start to smell.

[lloydslights]

I grew up in an area where a lot of Maltese and Italians lived.  Every Sunday their  whole family used to congregate.  Initially, it was their children. Then the husbands/wives of those children.  Then the grandchildren.  (It was like a Parramatta Road car yard on their front yard.)

It was family.  Where the women would gather and gossip, be up-to-date on the medical history of the family, etc.  Where the men would gather and gossip, compare crops, etc.  Such laughter, games of bocce, soccer and even cricket in later years. Such aromas from the Kitchen!

It was expected of them all to visit. 

In suburbia, prior to mothers going to work, there was the "nosey biddy at No. 10" keeping a watch out for the street's happenings, neighbours talking over the back fence or the lady at the Post Office knowing everything that was  "going on".

The days you couldn't keep much secret at all. 

Have we raised our children to not communicate with each other or Mum/Dad?  Why are we allowing them or even excusing them from their "duty".  These days, with our sophisticated technology, it should be so much easier to stay in touch.

DEB

[purple_haize]

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@punch*drunk wrote:

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@lloydslights wrote:

Unfortunately, one doesn't need to die alone for the fights to start.  Proceeds of an estate can dwindle by an unhappy relation taking action through Court. 

DEB

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One doesnt even need to have died for the ugliness to start taking place re a persons estate. Bit of a touchy subject for me at the moment 😞

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Well I can relate to you  Punch..........an aunt of mine inherited a very large amount of money.........you would not believe all the drama my cousins did and said to her and about her, re the will and who was going to get what, when she died.........she died a few yrs. ago now and they got nothing...........but while she was alive, they tried their level best, and they made her life hell.............

[purple_haize]

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@lind9650 wrote:

Purple, read the story.

There is family already fighting over inheritance of more than a million dollars.

Erica

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By the time it goes through probate and everything else that goes along with dealing with wills and property.....there may not be alot left for them to fight over, plus it can take years to finalize,

[cherry*135]

This lady chose to be a recluse. If someone knocked on her door she wouldn't open it.

She was married briefly and had no children. 

She used to live with her Brother & Sis-in-law when her mother was alive (they  both moved in).

Quite awhile after her mother died she moved out. She told her sis in law if she moves again she won't bother letting her know.

The question for inheritance is what year did she die? The laws changed over that period.

If it was early on, when her brother was still alive and now his wife (sis in law) would be entitled to  her estate.

If the year of death was the year she was found (2011?)  her neices and nephews are entitled to her estate.

Imo her sis in law made more effort than anyone else. She tried to find the deceased when her husband took ill (the deceased brother), and again when he died, which is when she was found.

Centrelink and the Electricity co should have noticed something was amiss.

[*crikey*mate*]

if she was found in 2011 and had already been dead for 8 years, then I'd estimate that she died in 2003.

[cherry*135]

The relatives don't have to show they visited her or anything like to be eligible for their share of her estate, it is their legal right to inherit it. - that is depending on how the decision goes re year of death.. either the sis in law gets it or the neices and nephews.

[purple_haize]

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@lind9650 wrote:

Purple, read the story.

There is family already fighting over inheritance of more than a million dollars.

Erica

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The $79.000 she has in the bank, will go quickly before rellies get it, all bills have to be paid, all debts she owed have to be paid, the state will take their share, the solicitors will take their fare share, it has to go through probate, that costs, burial will cost.............so out of the $79.000, there wont be much left, to fight over.