Grandparents? Like them?

[pension.payment.plan]

I love my grandparents and miss them. I think about them every day and cherish how much they enriched my childhood and young life.

However, both my parents detested their grandparents. They've never given much reason, other than my mum had to give her bed up for her grandmother every time she came to stay.

I'm wondering if it's a generation thing; several of my parents friends (all in their eighties) also disliked their grandparents.

Have grandparents become more fun over the generations?

How do you feel about your grandparents and do you get along with your own grandchildren?

[lloydslights]

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@crystal**flake wrote:

Grand parents are very important but they do have to know the rules.......

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Spoil them rotten, then send them back?

DEB

[lionrose.7]

Yes and buy them a drum set, to get back at their parents for all the worry they put you through hahaha

[daydream**believer]

I loved both sets of my grandparents.

Only met my dads parents twice as they lived in the UK but i talked to them on the phone every week as a child. The both passed away a couple of years ago.

My Mums parents moved to Australia when i was 12 years old. My pop died 10 years ago and my Nan died 2 years ago.

My Mum was a fantastic grandma. My kids loved spending time with her. My Dad is not very patient with kids.

My hubbys parents were ok grandparents. They never really showed an interest in what my kids liked so they were a bit boring. 2.5 yrs ago they tried to cause trouble in my marriage and decided they didnt like me anymore. They are trouble makers and liars and 3 months ago my hubby finally called them out on it and they hung up on him. We havent heard from them since. I would never ever stop them having contact with thier grandkids. Its their choice if they dont bother to ring them

[lloydslights]

Their loss, daydream.  

I have the fondest memories of my paternal grandparents.  My Pa especially.  I was his companion when I stayed there.  He was always in the garden or on wet days, reading, and that is where my love of gardening and nature began.  I still have his gardening tools and some cuttings/seedlings of his plants, now 50 years after his death. I have some of his books that he was given in 1912 for his 21st birthday.  (Price 19/6!!)   Also, he had the driest sense of humour.  

My children have spoken of missing my mum's enveloping and cushioned hugs and my dad's no-nonsense demeanour but his fabulous and humorous stories of his lighter parts of life that he allowed himself to share with them.

My younger son has that same sense of humour that Pa and Dad had.

DEB

[purple_haize]

I loved my maternal grandparents just so much, mainly my grandmother, I was really sad when she died at 96yrs, her and grandpa use to live with us, from when I was a small child.

I can remember she use to make all my clothing when I was little, especially dresses, she used newspaper to cut the patterns out, I use to hate it when she wanted to pin the pattern to me...........but the clothes she made me were beautiful.

She was a lovely lady and I use to tell her everything.

One thing I remember about her, I was fascinated with the corset she use to wear, all the hooks and eyes and she had this contraption for undoing them................strange the things one remembers.

Grandpa was a professional gardener, so we always had lovely gardens, he grew flowers and vegetables, every vegetable known to man. He lived till he was 96/97....cant remember.

My paternal grandparents, they adopted my father, when he was a baby, as they couldnt have kids of their own. My grandmother was austrian, a very gentle person and my grandfather, use to own a chicken farm in NSW...........we lived in Adelaide and when we went to NSW, always stayed with them, I use to love being with the chickens.

My pateral grandmother died when I was 7yrs, from lung cancer & she never smoked a day in her life. Yrs. after her death, granddad re married, she was a lovely lady as well.

I was lucky to have 2 sets of loving grandparents, but my mothers mother was the one I was so close to and miss the most, even to this day I miss her and she has been gone over 30yrs.

[azureline**]

At the nursing home my FIL is in, there are 16 residents in his wing, most have family within a 30k radius. At best, they might have a visitor once a fortnight. It makes me sad.

Staff seem quite amazed that my FIL has so many visitors, however, I never could understand how anyone could put a grandparent, or parent,or partner, in there and walk away.

Now, I understand it but I don't condone it.How hard can it be to visit once a week? check on their clothing, their well being etc?

[lloydslights]

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@azureline** wrote:

At the nursing home my FIL is in, there are 16 residents in his wing, most have family within a 30k radius. At best, they might have a visitor once a fortnight. It makes me sad.

Staff seem quite amazed that my FIL has so many visitors, however, I never could understand how anyone could put a grandparent, or parent,or partner, in there and walk away.

Now, I understand it but I don't condone it.How hard can it be to visit once a week? check on their clothing, their well being etc?

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Peoples' "busy" lives have a lot to answer for, don't they.  

Some of those patients probably sacrificed a fair bit (as most parents do) to raise their offspring and the acknowledgement by the younger ones is sadly lacking.  

DEB