Have you ever "accidentally" ended up in a relationship?

aspie*mum
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I had a horrifyingly awful breakup with my fiance in August last year.  By September I had moved cities, got a new job, got my child into a new school and settled back into my life.  I also went out with my girlfriends one night (to drown my sorrows) and met an extremely good looking Kiwi who I ended up having a passionate night with (which was good for my self esteem).  


 


I never intended to see him again but we spent the next 2 months sending text messages which consisted of little more than "Bootie call?" and "when / where?".  I was not looking for a boyfriend (in fact made it very clear I wasn't!) and this worked extremely well.


 


HOWEVER, by November we'd gone to the movies together a few times.  Gone to the beach a couple of times.  By December he'd met some of my friends and I'd met his.  By January we went on a holiday together for 4 days (I should have listened to my wise girlfriend who stated "bootie calls don't go on holidays together" and (horror OH horror) he's started introducing me as his girlfriend.


 


So, I have accidentally gotten myself a boyfriend.  And the timing is so bad.  I've basically ended up jumping from one relationship to another without having any "me" time in between!


 


A lovely boyfriend.  A great looking boyfriend.  But a thoroughly unsuitable flirty tarty boyfriend.  


 


And I didn't want a boyfriend.


 


But, I have one and he's so lovely to me that I don't really want to get rid of him.

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Musta woken her up :^O


Signatures suck.
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i lived in a terrace house with noisy neighbors, out of frustration i recorded it on my old M10 akai and played it back in the morning. didnt work though. i think they either broke up or the heat went out of it, because the noise died down.

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🙂



 


I think we were just really unlucky LOL


 


Her and her boyfriend must have got up to go into the kitchen at the most inappropriate time!


The bf never said a word....pirate commented he was probably wondering "how do you make a girl do that?" LOL

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night."
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T.M.I........... Dynogirl...:O

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aspie*mum
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Just to anyone concerned about my lovely Kiwi....whilst he wants me to be his "girlfriend" he's defiantly not the "serious" type.  He is a full on party boy!  His lifestyle and my lifestyle are totally different - I'm a mum, I work.  Whilst I go out, I'm not really that much of a "party girl" - I've grown way past that.


 


He loves going out - like OUT OUT.  Full on out!!!!  He's wild....very much S,D,R&R.  Totally not what I do.  But then, he's also very into fitness.  Complete and utter oxymoron - the man does triathlons and then has a cigarette after!


 


So yeah, whilst he wants me to be his "girlfriend", I suspect a lot of it is to do with the novelty of having a girlfriend who is so straight, but really non-judgemental on what his lifestyle choices are!


 


So whilst it's fun and stress free, it works for us.  But neither of us sees it as a long term thing.

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Just to anyone concerned about my lovely Kiwi....whilst he wants me to be his "girlfriend" he's defiantly not the "serious" type.  He is a full on party boy!  His lifestyle and my lifestyle are totally different - I'm a mum, I work.  Whilst I go out, I'm not really that much of a "party girl" - I've grown way past that.


 


He loves going out - like OUT OUT.  Full on out!!!!  He's wild....very much S,D,R&R.  Totally not what I do.  But then, he's also very into fitness.  Complete and utter oxymoron - the man does triathlons and then has a cigarette after!


 


So yeah, whilst he wants me to be his "girlfriend", I suspect a lot of it is to do with the novelty of having a girlfriend who is so straight, but really non-judgemental on what his lifestyle choices are!


 


So whilst it's fun and stress free, it works for us.  But neither of us sees it as a long term thing.



 


Lair lair pants on fire!!lol

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Sounds like "Friends with Benefits" LOL


Some people can go their whole lives and never really live for a single minute.
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aspie*mum
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FWB is probably apt.  We are friends.  We hang out.  We have fun.  We have lots of sexy times.


 


BUT I'm not planning on marrying the man!  And I like introducing someone so handsome as my boyfriend!:-x

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Yes us Kiwis are a good looking lot LOL

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good fpr you aspie*mum...


 


 mine arrived at 2.09 pm ..sigh*


 


 


 


 


 


 


 

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