Have you ever "accidentally" ended up in a relationship?

aspie*mum
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I had a horrifyingly awful breakup with my fiance in August last year.  By September I had moved cities, got a new job, got my child into a new school and settled back into my life.  I also went out with my girlfriends one night (to drown my sorrows) and met an extremely good looking Kiwi who I ended up having a passionate night with (which was good for my self esteem).  


 


I never intended to see him again but we spent the next 2 months sending text messages which consisted of little more than "Bootie call?" and "when / where?".  I was not looking for a boyfriend (in fact made it very clear I wasn't!) and this worked extremely well.


 


HOWEVER, by November we'd gone to the movies together a few times.  Gone to the beach a couple of times.  By December he'd met some of my friends and I'd met his.  By January we went on a holiday together for 4 days (I should have listened to my wise girlfriend who stated "bootie calls don't go on holidays together" and (horror OH horror) he's started introducing me as his girlfriend.


 


So, I have accidentally gotten myself a boyfriend.  And the timing is so bad.  I've basically ended up jumping from one relationship to another without having any "me" time in between!


 


A lovely boyfriend.  A great looking boyfriend.  But a thoroughly unsuitable flirty tarty boyfriend.  


 


And I didn't want a boyfriend.


 


But, I have one and he's so lovely to me that I don't really want to get rid of him.

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mine just says 2 hours ago

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I still agree with you Trish, even if it is dangerous lol

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*pepe
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this thread keeps shrinking  😮

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Yes just got one, I have appealed.

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*pepe
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looks like someone is passing the hat around to raise funds for a holiday for me 🙂

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oh darn, the thread just wasnt meant to reach 100 wasnt it?:^O


Signatures suck.
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I've just read what's here .I don't know if anyone has said this though I just wanted to say to the OP if this man wants a proper relationship with you and you don't with him (because he is not your idea of 'relationship material' and/or you aren't ready) it may end up hurting someone him if you let things go on ?

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dynogrl
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Well I wish I could keep my adorable kiwi....but alas, what started as a FB kind of thing ended up with me kind of wishing he would stay around.  BUT, when you hook up with a 'Sexy Pirate' he's bound to leave 😐 eventually!  We love each others company and the s*x is toe curling :8}


 


Pirates are by  nature nomads.......  bummer 


 


I will miss him immensly but I have at least gained a friend for life 

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night."
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Hi Dynogrl, I hope it doesn't hurt too much to say goodbye.I know that you are only fairly recently single....that can make things harder too I think.


 


Does he tell you this himself ?


Pirates are by  nature nomads.


 


It may be something he says quite a bit if he does .

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dynogrl
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He was very honest with me from the start.....I went into this knowing full well that he would 'sail away' LOL


 


I just didn't count on him being so goddam adorable :-x


 


I'm seeing him this Thursday and then on the w/e to say goodbye.  Bittersweet but I don't regret a moment.  He has been the most loving and attentive partner for me....something I sorely needed after 24yrs of 'blah' marriage.  I think he was sent to me as a gift to enjoy for a short while.....and enjoy I did !!!  LOL


 


I'm a little sad he's going but not heartbroken


 


He's even met my girls....and they really like him but I was honest with them and told them he wouldn't be around for ever.  What it's done is paved the way...they now know Mum is 

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night."
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