Have you ever "accidentally" ended up in a relationship?

[aspie*mum]

I had a horrifyingly awful breakup with my fiance in August last year.  By September I had moved cities, got a new job, got my child into a new school and settled back into my life.  I also went out with my girlfriends one night (to drown my sorrows) and met an extremely good looking Kiwi who I ended up having a passionate night with (which was good for my self esteem).  

I never intended to see him again but we spent the next 2 months sending text messages which consisted of little more than "Bootie call?" and "when / where?".  I was not looking for a boyfriend (in fact made it very clear I wasn't!) and this worked extremely well.

HOWEVER, by November we'd gone to the movies together a few times.  Gone to the beach a couple of times.  By December he'd met some of my friends and I'd met his.  By January we went on a holiday together for 4 days (I should have listened to my wise girlfriend who stated "bootie calls don't go on holidays together" and (horror OH horror) he's started introducing me as his girlfriend.

So, I have accidentally gotten myself a boyfriend.  And the timing is so bad.  I've basically ended up jumping from one relationship to another without having any "me" time in between!

A lovely boyfriend.  A great looking boyfriend.  But a thoroughly unsuitable flirty tarty boyfriend.  

And I didn't want a boyfriend.

But, I have one and he's so lovely to me that I don't really want to get rid of him.

[j*oono]

This is a nice story but I can't ever imagine that a drunken one night stand could ever be good for your self esteem.  ?:|

[aspie*mum]

Maybe you can't imagine how a drunken one night stand could be good for your self esteem, but I appreciate a good looking man.  I enjoy passionate love making.  I like feeling desired.  I get a kick out of (now) dating someone who is VERY good looking. 

I think it's sad that some people are so worried about society's expectations that they can't understand that two consenting adults can hook up and both feel good about it.

[lionrose.7]

aspie I meet my husband to be when no way I wanted a relationship.

We where together for 30 years

[dynogrl]

I totally understand where you're coming from!  I too met a gorgeous kiwi man.....it was/is a great casual relationship.  A break from the monotony of life!!  The difference with us is that we both agreed he would move on after a while (he sails yatchs for people so travels around the world).  i call him my pirate....he looks like one!

What I didn't count on was kind of falling for him in a small way.  And now he's leaving in 2 weeks and I wont see him again 😞

The boost to my self-esteem has been incredible ...I wouldn't trade my time with my kiwi pirate for quids

[j*oono]

Aspie mum, please don't take it so personally.  To each their own I suppose.

[aspie*mum]

I love hearing all these stories!!!

As for a Kiwi Pirate - that is so choice!!!

It IS a huge self esteem boost to have someone take you out and do nice things with you and just desire you.

It's great to feel understood that other people "get" what I am saying!

[*crikey*mate*]

Aspie, spot on. If it's making you happy, it doesn't matter how it started - just grab onto it with both hands - cos there are more than enough bad times in a person's life, so I reckon grab onto the good stuff whenever you can.

[kengillard]

spot on crikey!

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Aspie Mum, I am now married to the guy I repeatedly told I was not interested in a relationship. What began as fun is now a very happy marriage.

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

I should add...I left a marriage in the January (although it hadn't been a marriage for more than 5 years) and we got together in the April. He had apparently liked me since the September before and I had no idea. He made his feelings clear from about the March and I kept telling him to forget it, too young, not interested, males sucked etc etc...He persisted. We have been together almost 3 years and married since last October.