How do you tell a friend.....

[red.lollipop]

.....they feed their kid too much **bleep**? 

A friend of mine has a little girl - she's 10.  We get together quite regularly and every time we do, he buys her things like pancakes and a big piece of cake with icecream just for morning tea, then they go out to lunch.  (Don't know how she fits it all in!!!)  She's a lovely little girl and every time I see her, she's getting heavier and she also refuses to play any sport or even go outside and my friend (her dad) doesn't push it either.  I just feel like my friend doesn't see what's happening, and she's such a nice little girl I'd hate to think of her getting picked on or anything because of it.  It's not just every now and then either.  Whatever she asks for, she will normally get. 

[grandmoon]

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@the*scarlet*pimpernel wrote:

could you say something like " WOW, that's a lot to eat for a little girl, are you sure you'll fit all that in?" in a bright happy tone whilst looking pointedly at the dad

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If someone had said that to one of my children they would have said "yes" and then went to prove that they could by asking for more.

[this-one-time-at-bandcamp]

why?

That's the culture....any offense is returned with gunfire........look at the last couple of years.....play music too loud, you die.......start getting the worst of a bout of fisticuffs, pull a gun.....have a disagreement with a neighbor, pull a gun.......last week two 14-year olds had a cat fight, one ended up dead.

[vicr3000]

Red necks !

[the*scarlet*pimpernel]

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@grandmoon wrote:

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@the*scarlet*pimpernel wrote:

could you say something like " WOW, that's a lot to eat for a little girl, are you sure you'll fit all that in?" in a bright happy tone whilst looking pointedly at the dad

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If someone had said that to one of my children they would have said "yes" and then went to prove that they could by asking for more.

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yep, I did think of that, but really the comment is directed at the parent not the child. The kid probably will try and fit it all in but hopefully won't get another chance to do the same next time because the father takes the hint and curtails the amount of rubbish food she has.

[bluecat*dancing]

Just tell him that he feeds his kid a lot of **bleep** but whatever you do, do not humiliate the daughter.

[vicr3000]

That was my thought, on both counts.

[green.fields]

Red lollipop, are these occasions you see them at your place or a park, could you take and offer  nuts,  cut up fruit  and  carrot and celery sticks dressed up suitably for kidlets.  

Really, if he was a good mate and not just an aquaintance I would try to broach the subject with him. My first thought was the same as someone else's in this thread, that he is overcompensating for some reason however he may just be a slack parent.

[lind9650]

There are several questions to be considered before the right answers can be found.

A little girl at 10y old and being overwheight must be already being bullied or at least teased in School. Is it comfort eating?

Where does the mother fit into the picture? Does the girl live with her dad and he can not cook? Propably all those bought fast foods is just because something is missing in both their lifes?

There is no way of being tactful with a parent who does not know that they are slowly killing their child or giving them a lifetime of misery with illnesses caused by obesity.

If you are so very close to your friend, then perhaps a quiet talk when the girl is not present. Tell him how much you care for the girl and offer to help if he does not know where to start.

Instead of going for morning tea or lunch, pack a hamper with wholesome food and invite them to a picnic (sp?)

Erica

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Do not comment on the childs weight!

However, if you are concerned, call em out.

Just say..... " You are feeding her too much **bleep** food".

He knows he feeds her **bleep**......... he doesn't know how to say no.

Be prepared to suffer the fall out if he is offended.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@vicr3000 wrote:

Red necks !

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.........Indeed......lol.