Is paying for sex Immoral?

[the_bob_delusion]

Are people who pay for sex sad losers?

Does paying for sex equate to cheating on your partner?

Discuss.

[not_for_sale2025]

More than likely they'd be happy winners.

And it isn't cheating if you don't have a partner!

So negative.

[domino-710]

Don't know - but paying to text is exorbitant.

[sandypebbles]

So you're saying they should root 'n run ?

I doubt many sex workers have Afterpay 

[domino-710]

But maybe - they have - Lay By. LOL

[twyngwyn]

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Julia Baird joins Jane Caro, Tarang Chawla, Nat Tencic, Vincent Cornelisse and Bella Green for a special episode on sex and relationships. What impact has the pandemic had? Has sex work changed in recent years?

[zanadoo_56]

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@the_bob_delusion wrote:

Are people who pay for sex sad losers?

Does paying for sex equate to cheating on your partner?

   Discuss.

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I saw a program about sex workers who specialise in providing a service for disabled people, also another show about sex for the elderly.  Are these customers sad losers?  Of course not.  With an obsession on youth and looks to find a partner these days, it's not a bad idea to pay if you need to.

As for the second question...that depends. 

Is it an open relationship?  Does the partner know and agree?  Are they both prepared for unexpected consequences like a veneral disease, a partner who dips into the family savings to fund his/her habit until there's no money for food and paying the bills? 

I think it is cheating if the partner doesn't agree or is left in the dark.  This would not be a relationship based on honesty. 

And what if the partner decided to also pay for sex?  If you do this yourself you have no right to stop your partner from doing the same. Taking the step to pay for sex outside an existing relationship means considering all the ramifications before you start.....especially if things go bad as a consequence.

[the_great_she_elephant]

THE WOMBAT: eats roots, shoots and leaves.

[not_for_sale2025]

What about those relationships where one partner has lost that lovin feeling, but the other is still lustful? Should the lustful partner be expected to deny their wants and needs for ever more?

I think this is tricky and can lead to many different complications. One possible solution is paying for it. At least an emotional attachment would be unlikely. But could both partners agree to it and still feel the affection towards each other? Personally, I doubt it.

[zanadoo_56]

Paying for it (while keeping it a secret from the partner) works until said partner finds out....and then it may not have been worth it.

It can be awkward as to how the partner finds out - dobbed in by friends or family, discovery of unexplained payments on the credit card, gets VD or scabies as a result of paying for sex (....that's going to be fun to explain).

If sex is more important to one person and not the other, I'd say they'd have to be honest and up front if they really want to stay together.  Paying for sex may not be a big deal for the person paying.  As you've said, no emotional attachment.  But for the other person....jealousy, anger, potential health risks, going against religious doctrine.....lots of problems there!