Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

[daydream**believer]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/older-kids/behaviour-and-discipline-for-older-kids/mum-has-no-regret...

"A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads,

My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Thoughts on this?

I personally agree with the guy that defended the mum by writing ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions and also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

I asked my 13 year old daughter what she thought of this and she also agrees with what the Mum did. She said "The girl was bullying people online, hiding behind the computer so her punishment should be shared online as well"

[catsnknots]

100% agree with this.. 

I would do it too.... BUT I have warned my kids that if they do anything that is akin to bullying and stalking ro being just plain nasty to anyone online I would make sure they had severe consequences. 

I think before you punish your kids you need to tell them of what to expect and then tell then the punishment. 

[izabsmiling]

I don't know....it seems as though the Mum  is punishing her daughter by

 she herslf (the role model) doing the same kind of online behaviour she considers wrong when her daughter did it ?

Like do as I say ...not as I do 

[daydream**believer]

I dont see what the Mum did as bullying. As the sign says "My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media."

The sign doesnt go into details of what the girl did.

Bullying online is a huge problem.

This punishment is nothing compared to the stress that online bullying causes its victims

[izabsmiling]

The Mum did what SHE did  with intent to publicly shame and humiliate ....

she herself is a bully 

and she has shown her daughter that 'sometimes' it's OK 

[daydream**believer]

No, imo, she has shown her daughter that there are consequences for bad behaviour

[izabsmiling]

It's mixed messages and hypocrisy as far as I can see ..

It also says when you grow up ...you too can shame and humiliate people and children online when you judge it suitable

just like I did to you

[cherry*135]

The mother needed to take action.

I would probably have got the girl to hold the sign up over her face so she wasnt recognised by face.

[bluecat*dancing]

I agree with you, Iza. It does send mixed messages. Also, is the mother not aware of how this could affect her daughter in the long term?

Sorry, but if you have to resort to public shame to teach your kids a lesson, then, I think a parenting course might be of benefit.

[cherry*135]

'You only see a picture you don't know our story'

So true for a lot of stuff we read in the media.