My Mum Passed Away Yesterday But...

[grapes_collector]

I'm not feeling overwhelming grief. Just relief that she is out of her misery.

She was such a good Mum to me (I'm an only child), and we were very close. She had dementia, but she always knew me (she called me her very best friend) and she always talked about me to the staff at the nursing home, but she couldn't remember anything about her past life, including my late father, & had to be told things over and over again.

The last week was hell for her, as she had been in a lot of pain, felt nauseous and had been unable to eat or drink. The last few days she had slept (thankfully).

I'm worried that I should be feeling more. The only time I cried was when I saw her body. I've also come down with the most ferocious cold, the worst I can remember for many years, so I'm selfishly feeling sorry for myself, when I should be feeling more for Mum.

I've come here because I don't have anyone to talk to...just hubby, who I might add is being fantastically supportive, but I just can't tell him how I'm feeling.

Just needed to get it off my chest.

[kyliecrv]

So sorry for your loss. ♥

[grapes_collector]

You are all so kind & understanding. Thank you very, very much.

[azureline**]

♥

A mother holds her child's hand for just a short time,

but holds their hearts forever

♥

[j*oono]

I'm so sorry Grapes.  You are already feeling dreadful, it's just that your mind is dealing with things in it's own way as it does. I'm glad you were still close to your mum right to the end.  She was very lucky to have you too.

All I can say is the same as everyone else.  Grief has it's own timetable and any relief you feel is totally understandable.

[the_hawk*]

I am sorry to hear about your loss grapes.

Different people deal with things differently, don't feel bad and reflect on the good times

[tasfleur]

[freddie*rooster]

Awwww grapes, your Mum was a fortunate lady to have a daughter as loving as you. You sound as though you had a wonderful relationship with your Mum, she loved you very much, she was so very proud of the person you became. It took me a few months to finally crack when my Father passed, I felt I had to be strong for my Mother. As time goes by, you will remember your Mum and the fun times you shared with a smile.

{{{Grapes}}}

[cat_mioux]

:-x

[lionrose.7]

Grapes sending you hugs (((()))

It is awful to watch a loved one suffer.

I am sure your mother went knowing she was well loved.

[twinkles**stars]

grapes...perfectly normal to feel that way. I felt the same way when my mum passed away. lMuch later the grief set in. ♥♥♥