My brother and Self Defense

[herbto3]

My mum and I dont know what to do anymore. We are in the NT. Several weeks ago my brother defended himself against the full on intoxicated estranged spouse as she wanted him to go and buy drugs. He said no and she attacked him twice. He defended himself but since then he has found himself on dvo charges brought on by the cops. 

I feel for my brother as he is a good person and dad but no one is listening to him. The cops wont take away the charges as they see it as domestic volence. They dont see it as self defense. The x sister in law wants the charges dropped but the cops wont drop them. My mum is as she puts it hitting her head against a brick wall trying to get someone to listen to her about this as my brother is an abused husband the victim. Mum says it is not the normal run of the mill case as he is a bloke not a lady. Only ladies get abused not husbands. My brother has stood by his family as his x is a druggy and cant look after the 5 kids properly. He has been their protector.

What I want to do is help my brother and his kids but I dont know how to do it..I dont know who to get mum or brother to talk to. I dont want my brother to kill himself as this is what my mum has been thinking he might do. My brother and mum need help.

Is there anyone out there who could tell me what to say to my brother to help him please? And my mum? Can someone please please help me.... 

[the_hawk*]

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@polksaladallie wrote:

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@boris1gary wrote:

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@polksaladallie wrote:

My opinion is that a man should never lay his hands on a woman (or child) in anger in any circumstance. 

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everyone deserves the right to self defence regardless of gender, angry or not.

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Only under extreme circumstances and only if the people are of equal stature and strength, and that is very unlikely.

I suspect that this thread will not survive, anyway.  It has a familiar ring to it.

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so if a drug crazed teen girl attacked you in a frenzied attack in your home you wouldnt defend yourself because you were bigger and maybe stronger.

unfortunately not everyone lives in a perfect world

[polksaladallie]

If the original story is real (and I doubt it), the man has been accused of assault.  The police in this country are in the main very sexist, and will believe a man ten years before believing a woman.  So if he has been accused, it will be for more than simply defending himself.

[bright.ton42]

Just wondering why the original story is doubted.  It sounds very believable to me.  And I hope there is help out there for him. 

[purple_haize]

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@polksaladallie wrote:

If the original story is real (and I doubt it), the man has been accused of assault.  The police in this country are in the main very sexist, and will believe a man ten years before believing a woman.  So if he has been accused, it will be for more than simply defending himself.

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I know alot of police personally, have one living not far from me, and I have never found them to be sexist. I also dont believe that they will believe a man, before a woman.

[cherry*135]

"The police in this country are in the main very sexist". An opinion, a gross generalisation as well.

To herbto3 as others have posted legal advice is your best option.

[*pepe]

my best advice is don't come here for advice

[*pepe]

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@polksaladallie wrote:

If the original story is real (and I doubt it), the man has been accused of assault.  The police in this country are in the main very sexist, and will believe a man ten years before believing a woman.  So if he has been accused, it will be for more than simply defending himself.

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which country do you live in, because here in Australia its quite the opposite.

[purple_haize]

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@am*3 wrote:
"The police in this country are in the main very sexist". An opinion, a gross generalisation as well.

To herbto3 as others have posted legal advice is your best option.

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I have seen a different view of the police, my opinion and I also suggested that legal advice was the best way to go.

[cherry*135]

Purple... I just hit reply, which refers by default to the post before. My post wasn't to you.

I quoted another posters words.

I also put.. as others have already suggested seek legal advice ( that is I agree also with that advice)

[purple_haize]

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@am*3 wrote:
Purple... I just hit reply, which refers by default to the post before. My post wasn't to you.

I quoted another posters words.

I also put.. as others have already suggested seek legal advice ( that is I agree also with that advice)

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Ok, no worries.