People who ask for advice.

[azureline**]

What is it with people who ask for advice about a problem they have and no matter what anyone suggests, they give a negative response?

oh that won't work

 I tried that a year ago, it didn't help

he wouldn't like that

that is too hard for me

that might upset him

I have arthritis so I can't do that

I sold the pram because he REFUSED to sit in it

I can't use a trolley because he stands up and screams.

BTW, I watched this unfold but didn't offer any advice myself. B-) but I wanted to say "well, guess you can't fix the problem, better just accept it and keep on doing what you are doing :)"

[thebeadzknees]

Some people just look for an answer that requires no effort or blame on their behalf in my experience.

[cueperkins]

I learned a long time ago, that people will ask advice, & then according to their own 'schema' or world view, including experience, will patch together a solution that works for them. 

Sometimes it's just other aspects of a problem people need reflected....appreciating that, I don't get annoyed if people make their own minds up.  I think the fact that an individual is open to other viewpoints is the main thing...JMO 

[cherry*135]

I think sometimes people like the drama and the attention but when it comes to actually applying the advice they have been given to their lives they refuse to do it.

I agree with Bella's view.

[*crikey*mate*]

I think sometimes people like the drama and the attention but when it comes to actually applying the advice they have been given to their lives they refuse to do it. Or alternatively won't acknowledge the issues that led them to that place, so refuse to fix the problem.  Def not normal behavior.

agrees - and it happens here in cyberland too.

[*crikey*mate*]

Some people just look for an answer that requires no effort or blame on their behalf in my experience.

or want someone else to do it for them

[the_hawk*]

What is it with people who ask for advice about a problem they have and no matter what anyone suggests, they give a negative response?

oh that won't work

 I tried that a year ago, it didn't help

he wouldn't like that

that is too hard for me

that might upset him

I have arthritis so I can't do that

I sold the pram because he REFUSED to sit in it

I can't use a trolley because he stands up and screams.

BTW, I watched this unfold but didn't offer any advice myself. B-) but I wanted to say "well, guess you can't fix the problem, better just accept it and keep on doing what you are doing :)"

I have foundPeople do that for two reasons

1 when they dont like the suggestions because it requires some effort from them and will keep asking different people until they hear what they want

or 2 they just like to winge so people can feel sorry for them