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Shamed into losing 45 kg

the_bob_delusion
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on ‎08-01-2014 12:51 PM

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health/nicole-whitehead-was-shamed-into-losing-weight-after-humilia...

 

On what should've been a carefree trip to a theme park with friends, Nicole felt so much shame that it spurred the obese young woman to change things for the better.

It took three staff members to help jam her oversized figure into a roller-coaster seat. She was so humiliated that she didn't go on any other rides that day.

Now aged 23 and happily married to husband Jay, she has overhauled her bad habits, especially her diet.

"I used to have a few rounds of white toast with full-fat butter for breakfast. Now it's still toast, but wholemeal bread with cereals as well," she says.

Nicole says she had no confidence as a bigger woman and hated shopping for clothes.

She also had to go to the emergency room twice because her mass affected her breathing, which led to panic attacks.

But now she says her confidence is restored ... and she's not afraid to visit a theme park.

"After what happened at the theme park, I was so proud to be able to go scuba diving. I now feel amazing compared to what I used to be like and I'm so pleased with the achievement," she says.

 

 

 

So what's the moral of the Story?

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the_bob_delusion
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:09 PM

@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Just a quick note - nowhere did I insult, ridicule, blame or mock the overweight. The most I said was that it wasn't good for us.

 

The rest was some (intended)  light-hearted back and forth between freethinker_bob and myself, more about religon than anything else.

 

If I offended anyone (including free-thinker_bob) I'm sorry, but it wasn't my intention. And I stand by my belief that if one is overweight, regardless of whether the cause is genetic, environmental, intake related or whatever, in the interest of good health, we owe it to ourselves to exert what controls we can.

 

Marina.

 

You weren't being insulting but I don't think you realised how ignorant you sound with your God comment. 

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nevillesdaughter
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:19 PM

Genuine question - Which particular God comment and how was it ignorant-sounding?

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jimmy*part4
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:36 PM

@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Genuine question - Which particular God comment and how was it ignorant-sounding?

Do you really want an answer? Because the answer you'll get will be one justifying a rude mean spirited comment. Bible thumpers are like that. They know all and bash people with any knowlege they have of "the word".

 

Free thinker my eye!

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*crikey*mate*
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:49 PM

@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Only if you shame them righteously, kindness in your heart and good intentions.

 

Now stop trying to make me sound like some sort of crazed God-botherer, or I'll put a curse on you.

 

Marina.

Go one better and pray for the redemption of his soul.


Some people can go their whole lives and never really live for a single minute.
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nevillesdaughter
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:50 PM

I really do want an answer. I myself am a card-carrying mass attending member of my church and all I was doing was having a dig at the things often done in the name of faith - attempting to shame in the name of saving the soul of someone is a case in point.

 

I can't believe anyone would actually believe that I was urging people to shame the overweight in God's Name. If I sit on a chair and it breaks I'd say it was God telling me to go on a diet - I'm not ridiculing anyone's faith OR the overweight.

 

On the subject of shame - NOBODY shamed or ridiculed the girl in the OP. From my reading of the story, the staff helped her into the ride and her sense of shame came from herself...

 

Marina. 

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nevillesdaughter
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:51 PM

@crikey*mate wrote:
@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Only if you shame them righteously, kindness in your heart and good intentions.

 

Now stop trying to make me sound like some sort of crazed God-botherer, or I'll put a curse on you.

 

Marina.

Go one better and pray for the redemption of his soul.

Right now Crikey I feel like I should pray for my own redemption - if only I could work out what I did wrong.

 

Marina.

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the_great_she_elephant
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:57 PM

@nevillesdaughter wrote:

I really do want an answer. I myself am a card-carrying mass attending member of my church and all I was doing was having a dig at the things often done in the name of faith - attempting to shame in the name of saving the soul of someone is a case in point.

 

I can't believe anyone would actually believe that I was urging people to shame the overweight in God's Name. If I sit on a chair and it breaks I'd say it was God telling me to go on a diet - I'm not ridiculing anyone's faith OR the overweight.

 

On the subject of shame - NOBODY shamed or ridiculed the girl in the OP. From my reading of the story, the staff helped her into the ride and her sense of shame came from herself...

 

Marina. 

People have a tendency to take posts at face value - we really do need an 'only joikng' smiley. 

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green.fields
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:59 PM

You didn't do anything wrong, don't lose sleep over the comment made.
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*crikey*mate*
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on ‎08-01-2014 05:59 PM

@nevillesdaughter wrote:
@crikey*mate wrote:
@nevillesdaughter wrote:

Only if you shame them righteously, kindness in your heart and good intentions.

 

Now stop trying to make me sound like some sort of crazed God-botherer, or I'll put a curse on you.

 

Marina.

Go one better and pray for the redemption of his soul.

Right now Crikey I feel like I should pray for my own redemption - if only I could work out what I did wrong.

 

Marina.

You did nothing wrong, I'm thinking that Bob hasn't gotten to know you very well yet and how you express your outlook on life and relate your experiences.

 

I knew where you were coming from and the spirit in which the comment was intended.

 

After a while, you will see that Bob will pounce on any comment about God, he seems to think a lot about him, and it is actually interesting (in a good way) to see his perspective of things. He really does make you question the epistemology of your beliefs. And I think that's a good thing.

 

You'll get used to Bob too, he meant no harm either, I reckon, it's just the way the printed word comes across.


Some people can go their whole lives and never really live for a single minute.
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