Wedding Etiquette

[chinchuckchick]

Haven't been to a wedding for a few years (all our friends are married/not getting married/divorced etc) recieved one yesterday for the daughter of friends.

Anyway, is it usual these days to put BSB/Account details on the card that says there will be a wishing well?

Fair enough (much as I dislike the lack of personal touch in a money gift) I've gotten used to wishing wells, especially for couples who have been together for a long time, I don't even mind putting money toward their honeymoon, but to turn it into a bank transaction goes too far for me.

[lis351]

:^O

[chinchuckchick]

I was so glad they rang lis, I coould imagine them them throwing it in the shed for the five years, it was one of those el cheapo toasters from kmart. They hadn't even taken it out of the box when they called., they had put no gifts on the invite, so thought we were just taking the p

[i-need-a-martini]

The BSB account thing is quite common now.

Personally I hate to give money for a wedding and the BSB thing makes it even worse. I refuse and always buy a gift.

[azureline**]

I don't like it but then, the generations before me were horrified at invitations that asked for money in lieu of gifts.

I am horrified by people who think it's ok to ask for money instead of gifts for children's birthdays now....... because they have everything already?

I think it is rude.

[lurker17260]

My first thought was that's horrible, but when I think about it ........ a wedding we went to recently suggested money in lieu of a gift. They were then left at the end of the night with a LARGE amount of cash they had to secure until Monday morning. So maybe a deposit is safer?

[tulip*place]

BSB number for wedding gifts, hope they include the reference number so the giver can be identified.  Nothing worse then money being deposited and you have no idea who it is from.

Years ago when I got married, I requested money instead of gifts..  my lovely aunt had issues with the food and deducted half of the original amount in the card.. Real classy broad had written in the corner of the card the amount then tried to smudge it out...

[jean2579]

My DIL's family are originally from Singapore and at their Wedding small red envelopes were placed beside each plate. As the Bride and Groom visited each table after the meal anyone who had chosen to give money discretely handed the red envelope to them. They did not know afterwards who had gifted money or how much. Everyone received the same warm thank you note later. It was a lovely way to gift money.

[monman12]

One of my sons decided to marry his partner of 18 years last Xmas, in Port Douglas, on Christmas Eve. I was disconcerted to say the least (distance from Melbourne, timing, animals etc) but thoroughly enjoyed Port Douglas, the little historic weatherboard chapel in Anzac Park, the Saturday market, and everything else.

Drank too much, ate too much, lazed too much, oh yes and having rejected the idea of an electronic  money transfer, gave the couple my personal cheque, together with a permanent reminder of the event in the form of one of my antique clocks.

Will visit Port Douglas again, it is so friendly and pleasant.

[jean2579]

You're a sweetie monman!

[patchoo78]

They would need to have online banking though, i would not want to go into a bank to make a deposit

No they don't.. I've transferred money using online banking into a friends account and they didn't have it..