What are the boundaries on visiting family?

[givemeaspell]

What sort if any boundaries are there on visiting family members?  Is the pop in acceptable or you prefer getting a heads up or an invite?  When my children move out of home I hope that I don't have to be asked over for a visit but at the same time I wouldn't just rock up without a call to say if it's suitable.  My parents have a habit of coming to mine at least once a day and they just walk around the back and let themselves in...this annoys me because I think everyone is entitled to their privacy but if I said anything they would be so offended, I wonder if I am being mean thinking this way?  I am very close to them but this really grates on my nerves to the point I find I don't give them much when they visit, I know they are getting old and time is precious so feel a bit awful thinking this way.  anyone have similar situation as im interested to know what sort of visits you get from family.

[green.fields]

I normally ring first because of distance and vice versa anyone coming here however the inlaws just call in and it doesn't really bother me because it is not every day. No one can just let themselves in because my doors are always locked, either the normal doors or screen doors. I would not like anyone just walking in other than my son and family. On the odd occasion anyone does call by unannounced they yell out when they get to the back door. Most my visitors come in the back door.

[happyroo_bunji]

Ok well with my parents, I usually just drop in anytime.  I live in the same town as them, they don't seem to mind (I've told them they must say if its a nuisance).  In face if I haven't turned up by a certain time, they'll phone me to see if I'm still breathing!

My older brother who lives in the same country town as us, I would never dream of just popping over unannounced if I wanted to visit.  I have gone over to drop things off unannounced but I just either hand them over or put at the back door and then leave.

My younger brother lives 2hrs away so if I want to meet up with him I lock in a date, otherwise if I'm down there I'll give him a call and see if we can have lunch together if time permits.  If we can't meet up, thats ok.

As for my aunts and uncles, cause they live so far away its always arranged when they come over.  Except for one uncle who is a truckie and if he is in the area he will drop in unannounced to say hello and grab a cuppa.

[azureline**]

I love impromptu visits from my family, however, if I didn't, I would probably just say "I wish you would call/send a message before you come in case I am busy/out. I would hate to miss you."

[rosieglen]

I usually phone and see if the kids are busy - usually I bake and take something over so the son in law is very happy to see me LOL

The grandies often email and ask if we will be home and pop in but occasionally there is an impromptu visit.

I am loving living closer to my kids after twenty years interstate

[katydidthat]

I moved 20,000 k away from my family 🙂

[azureline**]

I usually phone and see if the kids are busy - usually I bake and take something over so the son in law is very happy to see me LOL

The grandies often email and ask if we will be home and pop in but occasionally there is an impromptu visit.

I am loving living closer to my kids after twenty years interstate

We can tell 🙂

[catsnknots]

my family can turn up anytime... 

one day they will not be there and then you will be looking at your back door and wishing they would just pop in unannounced. 

I pop over to visit my mum anytime.. 

[givemeaspell]

I get that Cat and I as I said I have a very close relationship with them, they live very close by so can pop in 2 or 3 times a day sometimes.  I also pop in there unannounced.  Don't get me wrong it's not so much the pop in (although 3 times a day can be a bit much) it's the coming around the back door and letting themselves in, my back door is open when I am home but I'd rather they knocked at the front door.  The other day OH was walking around in her underwear and my mother just walks in - situations like that.  And its not just my house it is my OH so he should at least feel he can be able to to that don't you think?

[givemeaspell]

um that should be HIS underwear......sounds like he was walking around in my Mum's...LOL!