A new book titled How To Choose a Husband gives a 12-step guide on how to seek and then hook a man in today's 'post-feminist' culture, which is apparently preparing young women for perpetual singledom.
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Author Suzanne Venker, who also wrote 7 Myths of Working Mothers and The Flipside of Feminism, believes a submissive wife who gives up on her dreams for marriage and motherhood is the best way to maintain a lasting union.
The 45-year-old married mother-of-two explains: 'Our post-feminist culture is toxic. It celebrates women at the exclusion of men; it ignores the needs of children; and it glorifies the single life... Sadly, more women than not will allow this poison to invade their bodies and even ruin their lives.'
Ms Venker believes young women's mothers, who drummed in the ideology that being an independent woman, with equal pay, was something to strive for, are to blame.
'(Mothers) did their daughters a great disservice. They were wrong to tell their daughters they could never rely on a man,' wrote the author, who has built a career on challenging feminism and questioning contemporary female freedoms.
On equal pay, she continues: 'Women don’t make as much as men precisely because they don’t work the same number of hours. Women continue to take years off the job to care for their children or aging parents or to live a more balanced life. Feminists leave that part out.
'You also need to recognize your enemy,' she adds. 'Culture is working against you every step of the way... At the moment, the single greatest problem your generation faces is the relentless anti-male/pro-female rhetoric you're exposed to. It's inescapable.'
Ms Venker believes that to have a happy marriage, it is these gender difference we have to embrace, rather than rail against.
For example, 'Men are hunters. They want to build things and kill things - that’s why more men than women shoot guns,' she writes.
'It’s why male engineers greatly outnumber female engineers. Females, on the other hand, like to gather and nest—that’s why more women than men like to shop and bake, or stay home with their kids.
'Women also like to get all dressed up and prance about in their heels. And men love to watch women prance about in their heels. That’s the yin and yang of gender relations.'
In one chapter, she also asks that women 'Decide To Stay' a plea to ensure people don't give up on marriage when things get tough, which seems like sound advice for both men and women a like, regardless of their stance on gender equality for women.
In a case against day care, nannies, and full-time work, she also advises: 'Accept It: You Can’t Have It All.'
Anti-feminism: Suzanne Venker, author of How To Choose A Husband, believes a submissive wife who gives up on her dreams for marriage and motherhood is the best way to maintain a lasting union.
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