Being judged, repeat, repeat

[buyingandsellingmandy]

Hi

I was a newcomer to this site and I came for help. Some of you were very respectful, helpful, investigated a few things for me.

But, there were alot of people that were critical of me in so many different ways.

I had come to this site for help, that's all I wanted, help to prove I had paid for an item.

Some of you were down right mean.

More than not, alot of people were very critical over and over again. If I made a mistake, then I got criticised for that. I want all of you to read all my responses to my very first question on this sight.

If a person comes to this site for help, be respectful from the very beginning. They need yr help, not anything else.

One person i nearly reported.

I was constantly being bombarded about anything I had to say, in the end, that wasn't the help I needed. I don't know how old some of these people were, but to me, it's not funny when u need help to be criticised all the time.

If I had not won my case, I would of left ebay for another site. To the person who was so rude from day one, you need a lesson in how to talk to females. Coz yr really bad at it.

For a person to have this sort of experience, very first time, your getting a bad reputation.

I showed alot of people your responses, friends of mine, people in the street, random people I didn't know, just wanted to see what other people I didn't know thought.

Only the people that were helpful got a mention. Others that were critical, well, your site is getting a bad reputation, because of you're responses.

You can say, now I'm being critical, yes I am, coz if I don't tell you, someone else will eventually.

I think age might have something to do with it. Some of you sound like teenagers.

A little respect goes a long way in this life.

Most people I spoke to said, I'm never going on there to get help. I said, are you sure u wouldn't if u were desperate like I was for people's help? Response, not in a million years was a common answer.

All I asked of each person was, can u read this, tell me what u think, nothing more.

How many people did I ask? All the people that live in my court, parents, teenagers alike, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19. Then I went to my town shops, I know most shop owners, local people. Same reaction.

If this makes u all angry, well, it hasn't sunk in yet, the reality of it all.

To those that helped me, a big thank you, it was very rare, but, I did notice you.

[sugar249]

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@4channel wrote:

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@4channel wrote:

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 I'd like to say more but I best keep it brief as free speech sometimes just isn't respected *wink*.

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@sugar249 wrote:

Surprised by this statement,  this is one forum where admins rarely butt in and change members views, and both sides of the discussion are allowed.  It has never stopped you in the past.

On at least one other forum I am a member of, half of the rubbish you post would be deleted or changed by mod's.

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I'm sorry sugar249 but I'm not taking the bait here.

BTW: The OP has a definite right to post their view and should be accorded some respect. I do recall her original post last year and what another female member, m*******b******  (a decent person) had to endure for some years was put on another.

So kudos to the OP!

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LOL.  I wasnt offering any bait, I was using my freedom of speech which you so much seem to cherrish.

Although you tend to use it with innuendo rather then using your freedom,  that's normally from someone who really has nothing valid to say, but wants to sound important.

OP has made many assumptions and attacks on members here in this post, so I think they all have very much the right of freedom of speech to respond.

I don't think anyone is arguing that OP hasnt got a valid right to post here,  OP has done that,  but by the same token, by OP posting here, all here have a right to freedom of speech to comment, or are you taking away your much cherished freedom of speech from us all.  You can't have it both ways.

[bjlcr]

It happens a lot.

[lynsh84]

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@bjlcr wrote:

It happens a lot.

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What happens a lot??

[padi*0409]

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@4channel wrote:

It doesn't surprise me in the slightest that you have written what you have  here. I want to say more but I will not take the bait. I know what follows

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I have to assume that statement was in response to this by Digi, who would probably be in the top couple of respected responders here :-

"Truth be told, it bothers me that your posts often foster ill-feeling towards others under the guise of support - I find that insidious, especially in this thread, and it makes me wonder if there isn't a little projection going on when you say others find enjoyment in putting people down. "

You are more than happy to post false/misleading information on the boards and denigrate others, yet are incapable of respecting other members views if they differ from yours, which are rarely factual or true (unless of course you see YouTube as the pinnacle of truth).

Condescending posts that you love to put up in reality do not paint a good picture of you, indeed they tend to make you look like a person that has an agenda that they will not veer from, no matter what arguments are posted by others to show the fallacies in your ideas.

[kh-jean]

Hi everyone,

This thread has gotten a bit heated and off-topic. Please remember that, while it is fine to disagree with others, discussion should always remain courteous and respectful.

Thank you.

[davewil1964]

4channel?

Not a lot, but probably too much.

[digital*ghost]

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@4channel wrote:

It doesn't surprise me in the slightest that you have written what you have  here. I want to say more but I will not take the bait. I know what follows

Please read what the OP has written. It's obvious she feels unfairly treated.  Besides myself, there have been numerous mentions of bullying here by certain others. This is a place for people to come for help and advice as well as possibly vent a little about experiences they have had that have affected them. Some people in a certain clique think it's a bit sporty to humiliate. A well-respected member mentioned this recently on another thread on another board within this website.

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This is that insidiousness I was talking about, in point of fact. Rather than engage with anything I said, which was an honest opinion and criticism of your own conduct / potential impact on other posters (entirely within thread topic), you choose to imply my post was "bait". It was nothing of the kind for anyone wanting to discuss the topic in good faith. 

Then you pivot and imply I did not read the OP when it should be perfectly clear to anyone reading through the thread and my first response that I not only read it, I chose to contextualise a concern and offered some constructive / positive thoughts on the basis of that concern. 

If you have a criticism of me and / or the way I conduct myself on the forum, it's not going to do either of us any good if you just hint at having something to say, as though you're trying to take some sort of high road by announcing (continually) that you do have something to say but choose not to say it - then bafflingly accuse other forum members of not respecting free speech. 

[padi*0409]

Would you like to borrow my wall Digi ?

                                                                                     

Spoiler

...........there could be scones on the other side of it........................

[digital*ghost]

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@padi*0409 wrote:

Would you like to borrow my wall Digi ?

                                                                                     

Spoiler

...........there could be scones on the other side of it........................

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Can I maybe just get a hike up so I can skip along the top? Seems like a bit more fun as long as I don't pull a Humpty Dumpty and my gooey insides end up outside.... 😨

....Also, just want to pre-empt any jokes about how I'm already a bit cracked 🤣

[gewens]

Hello,everyone. To be respectful is very important in your interaction with other members here. I'd like to remind you that content that is harmful, hostile, threatening, abusive, baiting, vulgar, defamatory, harassing, or includes hate or racist speech, name calling, or profanity will be edited or removed.  Please read about our policy here: https://community.ebay.com.au/t5/Community-Feedback/Updates-coming-to-eBay-com-au-Discussion-Boards/... Thanks very much. 🙂