18 year olds living at home!

[little*cherubs]

Hey Guys!

Its been awhile 🙂

So little Miss J is turning 18 this year and graduated from school at the end of last year. My question is....

Can we still tell them what to do and when to come home, if they can go out etc while they're living under our roof and supporting them?

We've been lucky and haven't had any problems with her so far but just wondering what everyone elses thoughts are on this topic once they supposedly become an adult (her words) lol

She wants to stay out tonight but is sick and I'd rather her stay at home while she's not well but feel bad telling her what to do, she doesn't want to go out clubbing,(she hasn't done that yet thank goodness) just staying over at the bf's house..

[shopping.trolley]

When I was 18 I had a very strict father, I rebelled terribly and did some very stupid things just to spite him.  He did the 'my house my rules' thing and it backfired big time.  Of course many years later I apologised for being the horrible daughter and he apologised for not realising I was growing up and needed to go out and experience the world.

Giving her a little bit of room to breathe could be very beneficial.

[the_hawk*]

I 'sort of agree with you hawk.   as long as the rules are not too restictive.

well yes they are no longer 5 YO

and 18 is technically an adult, they are not truly Adults until they are paying their own way in life and no longer dependent.

[toon_town_nutter]

toon_town yes thats right, he's just signed his first major record label, we spend alot of our time over in the US now.

awesome! He was a talented boy. I was only wondering about him the other week.

[margomeoz]

I am not sure that is a good way to do things these days hawk,

younger parents are different and I think it seems to work better,

I raised mine the way you said and they all left.

That could be okay too if you don't weaken and end up paying for all their rented units.

I think I would spend more time talking to them if I had them now.

[trish7025]

My 18 yr old is away at Uni but comes home on weekends....we have an understanding that he let me know if he will be in for dinner etc.

Like crystals kids, my boy is a good young man and respects us and the house rules.

He mostly stays home anyway...but if he does go out drinking with his friends it's always pre-arranged to sleep over at his mates place.

♥ my sons.

[the_hawk*]

Hi Margo its a slippery line to walk, you also don't want them still living at home at 40 treating you like a free hotel like a lot seem to do now with mum and dad picking up all the bills for them.

[froot_loopz]

Im lucky in a way, my daughter is the only one working in her bunch of friends, they never do anything because the friends never have any money, so at this stage there isnt any excessive drinking

she hasnt gone clubbing or whatever it is they want to do as soon as they turn 18.

[froot_loopz]

Hi Margo its a slippery line to walk, you also don't want them still living at home at 40 treating you like a free hotel like a lot seem to do now with mum and dad picking up all the bills for them.

Im encouraging mine to stay as long as possible  LOL it all helps me pay the mortgage

[the_hawk*]

Frooty that's good if they pay their way, I hear so many don't expect to pay to live at home thinking its free and always will be.

[rosymog]

Hey Chebs.  wow   l remember when they were just babies!! lol

Where did the time go?  Our babies grew up!