Alcohol question

[hahahavefun]

If a small framed female say weighing around 46 - 50 kilos drank bourbon and coke from around 3.20pm to between 9 - 10 every week night do you believe she would still be over the limit if she got in her car to drive at say 6am the morning after . 

Someone i know drinks like this and its more on a Friday and Saturday night as she stays up later. She doesnt see her drinking as a problem because she budgets for it . In 6 days she has drunk 2 x 1.25 ltrs bourbon and started on a 3rd not to mention all the coke tht she has also .

I believe if she got pulled over on the way to work one morning she would blow over the limit, would you agree ?

[2106greencat]

cheers (in a manner of speaking) duff

I never really had a problem with drinking.....I was actually very good at it.

It was the stopping that was the problem

[Anonymous]

you make me lol. just reading through a few of the other threads.

[2106greencat]

it's withdrawal - I swear - I am a good person

[chuk_77]

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@2106greencat wrote:

it's withdrawal - I swear - I am a good person

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with a naughty cheeky side 🙂

[2106greencat]

ah chuk you know me too well....

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

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@just*duff wrote:

No. That's incorrect.

No, that's correct

Your "higher power" can be anything you want it to be! No mention of Gods at AA NA or Al Alon.

You obviously haven't read the 12 steps.

Not usually in Australia. On American TV perhaps, but it's not like that here.

Have you actually attended any meetings? it doesnt sound like it if you dont know anything about the 12 steps.

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Obviously I have not attended any AA or NA meetings as I do not qualify their membership requirements. 

I have attended Al Anon meetings. Attended my first meeting more than 20 years ago. Al Anon follows the same 12 steps.

I have always believed that my higher power can be anything I want it to be. At the Al Anon meetings I have been to they are very careful about never using any religious stuff - I have never felt any pressure to profess a belief in anything. Not once.  

We will never agree because you are an addict and I am not. AA'ers and Al Anoners rarely get on well together.

And who could blame the Al Anon members? Their lives were **bleep**ed up by their addicted loved ones.

I have given up on my family members who are drunks and addicts. I don't give a flying **bleep**. If they want to slowly commit suicide it's a matter for them. I KNOW that it doesn't matter what I say or do, they will only stop if and when they choose to. They will lie and cheat and steal to satisfy their addictions. I have been told by a swaying, bleary eyed, stinking filthy drunk family member that: "I'm not drunk, I haven't used anything, you are just being a **bleep**!"

My energy is better placed looking after my own needs and the needs of my children. Al Anon taught me that. 

Good luck in your continued sobriety.

[freddie*rooster]

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@2106greencat wrote:

it's withdrawal - I swear - I am a good person

Yes, you are a good person, you are kind, thoughtful, generous and you have a huge heart.

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[the_great_she_elephant]

(Not in response to anyone, just a general observation)

I think the umbrella of alcoholism covers a variety of different drinking problems. Some people can't get through the day without drinking  - I knew a woman who woke up every morning with 'the shakes' and needed several drinks to get risd of them before she was fit to start the day. Others do not crave drinkon a daily basis, but if they have one  they cana't stop until they have drunk themselves into oblivion. 

if you are a compulsive binge drinker, then I guess cold turkey might be the only way, but for others I can see how, once the addiction has been broken, it might be possbible to enjoy the occsional drink.

[j*oono]

I've got to say that I do agree with Buzz.  I doubt that any alcoholic has ever recovered if not for being totally ashamed and disgusted with their own behaviour.  I think that rehab and AA can help but for a loved one to ask them to stop can even make them more belligerent and insist that they don't have a problem.

Molly coddling can also  be enabling.

[2106greencat]

Thanks freddie, that means the world to me.

I am not perfect, never will be, but I don't hurt people, I like to help if I can, and while I understand someone who has been 'burnt' before may be jaded, I couldn't imagine just turning my back on someone who needs me.

Buzz, you have obviously been hurt before, I have no way of knowng how or how badly, but I hope that you may one day find it in yourself to understand that alcoholism isn't a choice, it is an addiction.

And yes, it is weak to bow to an addiction, but we are not all superman!

Joono - I agree with the sentiment, but having almost walked through the gates of hell I am grateful I had someone who cared enough  to help me  choose another path (no matter how hard every day) and if it wasn't for the love of my kids, I might not be here arguing this point with you all.