Are heated discussions interpersonal disputes?

[poddster]

In my view there is a vast difference between passionate debate (heated discussion) and interpersonal dispute.

I agree that interpersonal anything should be given the chop but discussions that adhere to the rules of debate and address the issue are NOT interpersonal in their nature

Without debate society would still be in the cave.

Moderators may I make a suggestion? ............Thank you.

Do not be too hasty in your judgement as to what constitutes an "Interpersonal Dispute".

In a lot of  cases interpersonal disputes are veiled so as to appear innocent the do not get the proper treatment that they so richly deserve. I realise that Lithum moderators are only noobies to this site and are not aware of the forum dynamics as yet, let us hope that the learning curve gets accelerated as time passes.

[donnashuggy]

This is another good book too boris 🙂

[bluecat*dancing]

I didn't say that I wanted no moderating and I agree with Pepe - it needs to be more realistic.

[lakeland27]

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@donnashuggy wrote:

It's a bit of sport poddy and some are really good at it, the thing that bothers me is that sarcasm and telling jokes are moderated and that takes the fun out of it.

Nice to see you back Lakeland 🙂 have you been out stopping the boats?

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 no, that snake in the grass rudd took care of most of them. when the monsoon seasons over they'll be back.  they might even use some of those orange lifeboats tone bought them.

[freakiness]

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@donnashuggy wrote:

I think it depends who is posting and who is reporting, sometimes you can go for months and happily argue without a problem till someone takes a dislike to you

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I've noticed it's always replies to the same few people that cause my messages and post removals.  Usually within a very short space of time.  I try to avoid replying or conversing with a few posters.  It goes bait/banter, bait/banter, bait/banter, ignore, ignore, reply with banter and bam.    

[boris1gary]

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@bluecat*dancing wrote:

I didn't say that I wanted no moderating and I agree with Pepe - it needs to be more realistic.

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was just asking blue - didn't think you did, but didn't want to assume

[freakiness]

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@lakeland27 wrote:

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@donnashuggy wrote:

It's a bit of sport poddy and some are really good at it, the thing that bothers me is that sarcasm and telling jokes are moderated and that takes the fun out of it.

Nice to see you back Lakeland 🙂 have you been out stopping the boats?

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 no, that snake in the grass rudd took care of most of them. when the monsoon seasons over they'll be back.  they might even use some of those orange lifeboats tone bought them.

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They look like they'd make pretty cool beach front cabins

[polksaladallie]

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@lakeland27 wrote:

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 no, that snake in the grass rudd took care of most of them. when the monsoon seasons over they'll be back.  they might even use some of those orange lifeboats tone bought them.

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Careful, someone here doesn't believe in the monsoon season. 

[lakeland27]

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@freakiness wrote:

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@lakeland27 wrote:

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@donnashuggy wrote:

It's a bit of sport poddy and some are really good at it, the thing that bothers me is that sarcasm and telling jokes are moderated and that takes the fun out of it.

Nice to see you back Lakeland 🙂 have you been out stopping the boats?

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 no, that snake in the grass rudd took care of most of them. when the monsoon seasons over they'll be back.  they might even use some of those orange lifeboats tone bought them.

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They look like they'd make pretty cool beach front cabins

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 funny you should say that, i find myself wanting one for some reason.

[bluecat*dancing]

Sorry if I sounded a bit abrupt, boris. Everyone needs rules, boundaries, but they need to be realistic. What is considered to be interpersonal is open to interpretation and needs to be clearly defined. As it is, anything and everything can be deemed to be interpersonal.

 Lithium are doing a much better job that Liveworld did but they could lighten up a bit.

[freakiness]

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@bluecat*dancing wrote:

Sorry if I sounded a bit abrupt, boris. Everyone needs rules, boundaries, but they need to be realistic. What is considered to be interpersonal is open to interpretation and needs to be clearly defined. As it is, anything and everything can be deemed to be interpersonal.

 Lithium are doing a much better job that Liveworld did but they could lighten up a bit.

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It appears that some posters can post loads of nasty posts directly at others and those posts stay while any of the same given in return is reported immediately and the poster punished.