Autism / Aspergers

[grandmoon]

Do people Autism or Aspergers say please and thank you ??

I am dealing with an adult who never saids these words.

[azureline**]

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@buzzlightyearsgirlfriend wrote:

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@1966kelso wrote:

my SIL spoke to her 76 yeaar old mother like that. Muuuum, get me a glass of water, as she lay on the couch doing absolutely nothing.

She doesn't have autism, she is a lazy, spoilt brat.

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I do this when my Mum is visiting.

She's just turned 70.

She likes to come and visit and take care of me and the kids for a bit.

She often shoos the kids away from me when I'm snoozing on the couch.

I work full time and am a single parent, so it's sometimes nice to have someone look after me for a bit. 

When my Mum is visiting I cook proper meals every night so it's not like I make her my slave.

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I am sure you say thank you though.

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

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@am*3 wrote:
Some Autistic people aren't able to speak at all.

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"If you meet one person with autism, you've met one person with autism."

Stephen Shore

[cherry*135]

Exactly.. Does the OP know if she has meet a person with autism or not?

[azureline**]

well, she hasn't said.................. her thread titles are quite often/always? a bit unclear. She doesn't ever tell us the outcome either.

[*crikey*mate*]

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@grandmoon wrote:

Do people Autism or Aspergers say please and thank you ??

I am dealing with an adult who never saids these words.

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It is a learned and trained response which for some takes YEARS of practise, coaching and role playing with the shrink, caregivers etc. It is not something learned by osmosis like regular people - it is a learned process and one which requires a specific thought pattern to take place.

we spent YEARS, with physical role plating and practising social situations and the appropriate or rather expected responses - including with real people, toys and also caROTTON DRAWING STORY BOARDS ON NOT JUST THIS KIND OF THING, BUT MANY MANY DIFFERENT SITUATIONS. (*oops sorry about the caps)

Same for making eye contact when conversing.

in their mind, they think you should know what thery want, so often, they don't even understand why they need to ask in the first place.

[chuk_77]

were you the 86 year old woman this person was talking to? Is the 86 year old able to speak for themselves and sort it out themselves or do they need you to do it for them? 

there is no one size fits all with ASD

[*crikey*mate*]

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@*pepe wrote:

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@grandmoon wrote:

Thats what I am trying to work out Pepe.

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i think its insulting that you see someone display what you perceive to be bad manners and your thought is perhaps she is autistic or has aspergers.

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grandmoon has spoken of this lady before and previously asked for advioce and opinions

[azureline**]

if it is the same one.................. what was the result?

[azureline**]

😮 I thought this thread sounded familiar! same person, same issue, about a year ago?

[*pepe]

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@azureline** wrote:

I assumed she knew the person has aspergers? woops, misread that didn't I?

so my new answer is, some people just have no manners.

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if its the same person as here then I am the one who misread and made the mistake.