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Hey there all.
Moo, you are doing the right thing! Like everyone else has said, it has now come to the time where the next step has to be taken with your step dad because it is impacting on your mums health. At 84 years young, she is not as strong physically as she once was, and coping with the demands of someone with dementia is tough enough on younger people.
Of course you feel bad.......you think that in some way you are betraying your mum, but ultimately you are concerned for her health, as well as your step dads. Being in care will be the best thing for him, and for your mum also. She can still visit him frequently, but at least she can sleep easy at night, without having to be half awake in case he gets the wanders.
As an aside, does your mum have a emergency buzzer/button set up in her unit? I can't recollect the proper name, but they push the button and can summon assistance if they are unwell, can't reach the phone etc. When I did my prac with the aged care course, a few of the elderly clients living by themselves in their homes had this system set up. [I wish I could remember the name of it, it's popped right out of my head!!]
JV, sounds like your mum is hanging in there, as I said before, you are blessed with her being in a nice facility that seems to take great care of her, and of you too, when you visit.
PJ, sorry about your back, and all your other health issues. The past year or so has been really tough on you, poor thing.
To everyone else here, I send hugs and prayers for things to get better if you have some troubles, be it health, family conflict........whatever.
Me.....well I think the antidepressants are kicking in, I am not so down in the dumps, although I still get the weeps from time to time.
P has been incredibly supportive and caring, and of course the furbabies, with their goofy antics, bring a smile to my face too.
I hope you all have a good weekend.
Moo, you are doing the right thing! Like everyone else has said, it has now come to the time where the next step has to be taken with your step dad because it is impacting on your mums health. At 84 years young, she is not as strong physically as she once was, and coping with the demands of someone with dementia is tough enough on younger people.
Of course you feel bad.......you think that in some way you are betraying your mum, but ultimately you are concerned for her health, as well as your step dads. Being in care will be the best thing for him, and for your mum also. She can still visit him frequently, but at least she can sleep easy at night, without having to be half awake in case he gets the wanders.
As an aside, does your mum have a emergency buzzer/button set up in her unit? I can't recollect the proper name, but they push the button and can summon assistance if they are unwell, can't reach the phone etc. When I did my prac with the aged care course, a few of the elderly clients living by themselves in their homes had this system set up. [I wish I could remember the name of it, it's popped right out of my head!!]
JV, sounds like your mum is hanging in there, as I said before, you are blessed with her being in a nice facility that seems to take great care of her, and of you too, when you visit.
PJ, sorry about your back, and all your other health issues. The past year or so has been really tough on you, poor thing.
To everyone else here, I send hugs and prayers for things to get better if you have some troubles, be it health, family conflict........whatever.
Me.....well I think the antidepressants are kicking in, I am not so down in the dumps, although I still get the weeps from time to time.
P has been incredibly supportive and caring, and of course the furbabies, with their goofy antics, bring a smile to my face too.
I hope you all have a good weekend.
