Cancer questions :(

[lobs211]

Hi all you hooligans 🙂 Long time - hope all is good.

 I dont know where else to ask anyone so here I am.............

Can anyone tell me if they have experience with?:

A beautiful sister girl, who i call Mum (but clearly isnt) has just been diagnosed with both liver and bowel cancer.

So my question: What is this? 2 cancers found at same time? Same cancer in 2 spots? Do liver and bowel share the same cancer?

If someone says they have bowel cancer is that just a cancer that can get in the bowel?

I know those questions sound dumb but she is asking me (for some reson people think I know everything and I really know very little) so I am asking you lot cos there are heaps of you and youve been through stuff.

Doc has told her that they wont be deciding anything for 3 weeks - is this normal??

Any one know this stuff? This sucks 😞

Thanks

[lobs211]

Oh God - wonder why we need another Doctor?

But then I read 3 weeks is good.................

Thanks katy 🙂

Sineater - Nah i dont know you but thanks! I have never met a yank and I have some questions for you LOL not about this but American stuff LOL - At some stage I will ask you that.

This arvo i will message you re this and thanks for your offer to help a stranger - It is much appreciated 🙂

[purple_haize]

Lobs...........dont take much notice of what you read on Dr. Google, the info there isnt always right.

The anti cancer council will give you alot of info and I agree get a second opinion and dont wait for 3 weeks as in that 3 weeks alot could happen.

I have lost most of my maternal relatives to cancer including my mum, I know what you are going through and it isnt good, but please suggest to go get a second opinion.

(((HUGS)))

[lobs211]

Thankyou Purps 🙂

there is so many types of bloody cancers - thats the problem

And when people are too shy or scared or whatever to ask the Doctors - we are scared of Docs and hospitals Oh God we scared of hospitals so no one asks any thing and then they ask me LOL 😐

I will research

Cheers

[cherry*135]

Lobs I think your friend needs the opportunity to ask her Dr these questions now.

It would be good if she got an appt with him/her to do this. If you or someone else could go with her it would be best, as there will be lots to take in, and she mightn't be able to process it all.

[purple_haize]

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@lobs211 wrote:

Thankyou Purps 🙂

there is so many types of bloody cancers - thats the problem

And when people are too shy or scared or whatever to ask the Doctors - we are scared of Docs and hospitals Oh God we scared of hospitals so no one asks any thing and then they ask me LOL 😐

I will research

Cheers

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Being scared of drs. and hospitals is understandable, but you have to go with her to the dr. as AM said, there is alot to take in and she will need your support.

The sooner you get this friend to go to the hospital/dr. to find out, the sooner something can be done.........drs. always say, the sooner you see the dr, if you have any cancer symptoms the more chance you have of it not spreading. the sooner treatment is started the better.

I can understand you/her being scared, but she needs another opinion and treatment started as soon as possible.

[love*today]

Surely in your town they have aboriginal staff that she could consult with.

Everywhere is culturally trained nowadays so she should be treated and her beliefs treated with respect.

Up here we just opened our first aboriginal doctors, I hope it makes a difference.....I believe it will.

[lobs211]

They said 3 weeks?

And she is not my friend, she is my sister, she is more my mum - I call her mum 😞

Thanks

[lobs211]

Love, they have a KLO (koori liaison officer) yes they do

And I said the same thing - lets get her to ask all the questions and then give us the answers LOL  but you know what these stubborn peeps are like in a small town LOL  "This my business - not hers"

ha ha OMG!

I probly end up goin behind Mums back and doing exactly that, we need some info

Cheers

[purple_haize]

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@lobs211 wrote:

They said 3 weeks?

And she is not my friend, she is my sister, she is more my mum - I call her mum 😞

Thanks

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Still if it was me, I would go get another opinion, it doesnt hurt to do that.

[love*today]

I would get your mum to give you permission to speak with doctors for her on her behalf.
That might work? The sooner she gets some answers and you, then you can plan the next move.