Cat_mioux's new home
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on โ24-01-2011 10:15 PM
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on โ21-02-2011 04:35 PM
There is no way in hell nonads is going to sign an other copy. He'll probably laugh and move back in and then try to get me out. :_|
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on โ21-02-2011 04:36 PM
ouch
you will have good and bad days, I suppose, and you can start again tomorrow
Hope you are now feeling better and in front of a good movie, with a cat sitting next to you and a nice drink in your hand
I'm going to have a lay down and read a book. My bootiful daughter is coming over tonight for dinner. That will certainly cheer me up :-x
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on โ21-02-2011 05:26 PM
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on โ21-02-2011 05:59 PM
I'm going to have a lay down and read a book. My bootiful daughter is coming over tonight for dinner. That will certainly cheer me up :-x
yes have a lay down ms cat
but keep up whit the drama
so entertaining lol
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on โ21-02-2011 06:09 PM
I'm so peeved they 'lost' the form. I was thinking too, not such a good idea to give them my copy. I hope the RTA accepts a photocopy but sheesh not expecting them too. X-(
There is no way in hell nonads is going to sign an other copy. He'll probably laugh and move back in and then try to get me out. :_|
Just tell them it's their problem. They are professional RE managers: they are charging handsomely for their service and they have a duty of care.
And when you talk to them next, use the phrase "duty of care" more than once. Hang onto your copy of the thing he signed like grim death. If they try to chisel it from you, hang on to it-let them have a photocopy, maybe mention the Tenancy Tribunal.
Good luck!
"Knowing is not enough; we must apply.
Willing is not enough; we must do."
Goethe
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on โ21-02-2011 07:33 PM
As for the crap happening, you can deal with it. If it's frustrating you and making you upset then walk away for a bit and come back and look at the problem later. One of my kids accidently shut the toilet door with the lock on. I spent ages trying to figure out how to unscrew the handle (had to be done form inside the door ) or how to get a kid up and into the little toilet window......which shut and also had the window lock on it. In the end I rang my sister for advice from her hubby and she said, รถh ours have a little level underneath which can be flipped form the outside to unlock it."I bent down and had a look at mine and it did to. duh. Problem solved.
Lots of stuff has gone wrong here and I've managed to handle most of it myself. The biggest being the rotten front deck. The house was only 2 years old at the time and the builder turned up and said, "hmmmmm, not sure how we can fix that," and never came back. It stirred me up and so I got the new timbers, ripped up the old wood, replaced the bearers and rotten decking myself. I then went on to washdown and restain the whole front and back verandas myself. (got a federation style house)
Who needs a man? If you look at a problem long enough and answer comes and that's what I tend to do now before jumping on the blower and recruting help.
You can do it cat. I know you can, coz I was once in that same frame of mind and look at me. I'm a nurse, but I rebuilt my veranda better than what it was built brand new.:-p
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on โ21-02-2011 07:44 PM
hang in there ms cat, you are bound to have not so good days but you will soon find the great days far out number the not so good ones.
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on โ21-02-2011 10:26 PM
Just remember, no-one is "up" all the time, except maybe those who walk around in a fog of unawareness.
Tomorrow will have to be better:-D
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on โ21-02-2011 11:20 PM
Take all the advice given by others about the RE. They are the ones responsible for losing it, so it is there responsibility (duty of care) to hurry up and find it. Sometimes RE can be slack - not saying all are, but I have found in a few dealings with them, that they often think more about their commission than their clients, and that includes owners and the person renting. If you need to give them a copy - get one and maybe a good idea to fill out a Stat Dec, signed by a JP, and explain that it is not a copy of the original because the RE lost it, but it is a copy of the copy you were given - hope that makes sense. It is not your responsibility to get EX to sign another one - it is certainly not in your best interest to do so, and could be risky - who knows what state he might be in right now.
About you being a rescuer - I have a DD who is definitely one. 1st Marriage very abusive, emotionally, spiritually and physically - 2nd marriage is not exactly the same but still abusive in lots of ways - breaks my heart. There are some good books around about co-dependency, and also Boundaries. There is a book on Boundaries in Marriage (which is helpful in all sorts of relationships), which is written by 2 Christian guys, Henry Cloud & John Townsend. There first book is Boundaries, but I think the marriage one is a bit easier to read. It makes a lot of sense, and I'm sure it wouldn't compromise your Buddhist faith, another great book, also written by a Christian is called Tough Love - author James Dobson, also about marriage but very helpful for all sorts of relationships. He has been criticised by some Christian for writing it, because he doesn't go along with
"Marriage is forever" bit, but is very balanced. A good one on Co-dependency is "Co-Dependent No More" (I think) but can't remember the author. I read them all when going through my marriage crisis and they really helped. I also read a few humourous books written by women who found themselves in various circumstances. I became a "Relationship Book Reader and Seminar Attendee Junkie" :^O Even bought myself a leather briefcase, which my kids thought was rather funny. It all helped though, along with the support of my friends and lots of prayer.
I continue to pray for you and try to imagine how you must be feeling at different times. Also praying for you other ladies going through similar situations, and others struggling with variious issues.
So good to have the support of all the lovely ladies on here with their empathy and practical advice.
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on โ21-02-2011 11:34 PM
Good idea about strapping it - that's all DR would do I'm sure.
Hope you like this poem - you can insert Buddha where appropriate.
God's Rainbow
Rainbows appear after mighty storms
When things look their very worst;
Just when the skies are darkest grey
Look for the rainbow first.
The rainbow is a sign of God's promise
That He will guide us through any storm,
That He will see us through all our troubles,
No matter what their form.
When you feel battered by life's storms,
Any are filled with doubt and dismay;
Just remember God's rainbow is coming -
It's only a prayer away.

