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[cat_mioux]

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[b3llag1na]

I remember asking myself over and over 'why did this happen? Why me?'

It was only after a few years, when hubby and I had survived the crisis and had moved on with our lives, it suddenly dawned on me.

SHE was the one being taught a life's lesson. She had done this before, and that man had eventually left her. Then she got her claws into my hubby..... but in the end, after a long hard battle, we stayed together.

She needed to be taught the heartbreak she had caused others. To leave married men alone.

Karma.

[bizzylizzy_daisy]

I never blame the other womyn.......he made the commitment to his wife/partner, he is to blame.

[b3llag1na]

And Ms Mioux (and all the others struggling through this) do not let his carp mind games get to you - see them for what they are!

He is trying to seek justification for his choices ("see- she is a crazy lady! No wonder I went elsewhere" * insert smug smile* )

Try hard NOT to let him do this. You are BETTER than that! It hurts like the bejeezus, but if you recognise why they do it, YOU are in control.

[freddie*rooster]

Just remember this....and it kinda makes you feel a bit sorry for them. But imagine how it would feel to be in their shoes. Imagine how you would feel if it were you not Mr Nonads having the affair. Imagine the guilt and shame you'd feel. Imagine how you'd just want to crawl under a rock and die rather than face people with them knowing just what kind of person you actually are. A person of few morals and blatant disregard for others feelings. Especially concerning those who love and trust you the most and who should be able to love and trust you. Imagine. It'd be awful. I'd rather die than be that person.

But you see, there is the difference. We wouldn't do that. I know I could never dream of putting my worst enemy through what I've been put through. I couldn't even begin to imagine taking a compete strangers life, their kids life, their friends and families lives and just tossing it all to the wind. Ripping their hearts put and stomping all over them. Never.

Why is that? It's because we are the better people. They can't see that because they are being so self absorbed and selfish at the moment. Who knows if they'll ever see it.

At the end of the day we will be able to walk down the street and not be ashamed of our actions. We will be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and like the person we see. We will be able to say that we've never lied, cheated on hurt the ones who should have mattered most. They will NEVER have that. EVER again.

Well said Cyn, not only this, after the honeymoon faze is over surely they must one day look at each other and wonder when it's going to be their turn to be the dumped one.

[b3llag1na]

I never blame the other womyn.......he made the commitment to his wife/partner, he is to blame.

Sorry bizzy - I can't agree there- they BOTH are equally to blame.
The woman KNOWS the man is married. That should be enough for her to say, until you have finished that relationship, I am not interested.

[cat_mioux]

Mr Ex said something that I believe was absolutely genuine. The day after I confronted him with his affair and he was crying I sat there and listened to his pain and before I knew what I was doing I reached out my hand to touch his. He pulled back and cried 'this is so confusing'. I took back my hand and we said no more about it.

The other day he told me when he was away for the weekend he 'kinda sorta missed me'. I asked what he would miss about me once he left. He started to cry and said "when you reached for my hand that day. It shows me the kind of person that you are. Even though I have put you through so much pain you still had the compassion to reach out and comfort me."

And yet he has offered not a word of comfort to me.

So yes, cyn. I couldn't do to another person what has been done to me. EVER. Not under any circumstances. Sadly and pathetically Mr Ex and his skank are the type of people who are able to destroy love and trust. They will always have to live with that. And even after they have seen me in absolute agony because of what they have done - they are still carrying on their affair! Not once have they stopped to think "maybe we should stop this. This is hurting people more than we thought".

Mr Ex can no longer rent space in my head :-x


I feel more at peace since I ripped up the object that represented our 'love'. I feel like I've moved closer to accepting it's really over.

[cat_mioux]

As for blame?

I take 50% of the blame for the problems in our relationship.
Mr Ex needs to take 50% of the blame for the problems in our relationship.

Mr Ex is 100% responsible for his affair. He had options. Turn to me. Ask for counselling. Ask for a separation.

Mrs Skank - if it wasn't her it would have been someone else. But yes, she made it easy for Mr Ex to cheat by offering up herself and by reeling him in, he who was so easy to reel in because he was primed for an affair. It also says what kind of person she is. A person with no morals or integrity and who shirts on the sacredness of love.

They deserve each other.

[lind9650]

Ms. Mioux,
Get yourself a sheet of Smily stickers (the smilies are different sizes on the sheet)
Start with a small one, stick it on the calendar, and every day stick another one, bigger in size.

Put a smile on your face, no matter how bad you feel. It will annoy Mr NN, but it will make your brain think that you are happy. Our brain very much reacts to our expressions, and a smile is a feel good sign.

You can do it. Just play Mona Lisa for the next ten days. 😉

((((((((HUGS)))))))) :-x

[cat_mioux]

Ms. Mioux,
Get yourself a sheet of Smily stickers (the smilies are different sizes on the sheet)
Start with a small one, stick it on the calendar, and every day stick another one, bigger in size.

Put a smile on your face, no matter how bad you feel. It will annoy Mr NN, but it will make your brain think that you are happy. Our brain very much reacts to our expressions, and a smile is a feel good sign.

You can do it. Just play Mona Lisa for the next ten days. 😉

((((((((HUGS)))))))) :-x

Fabulous idea :^O

((hugss))

[cat_mioux]

Morning ladies...

Wow, so many sad stories, but what a great place for everyone to come to and get inspiration. :-x






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Is that a catflap I see? 😮