(((cyn))), I haven't got much to add to what the ladies have written up there, but I completely understand your disappointment and frustration. ๐
It sounds to me like you are doing a great job though, and as others have said he is the one missing out. Wait until she gets married and wants YOU to walk her up the aisle because you have always been there for her.
Being a single parent of teenagers is really hard isn't it?
Oh I love daphne, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't grow in the West, I don't even see it in the garden shops here. We can grow wonderful roses though, with no drainage problems and not many pests/diseases. Roses and gardenias are my absolute favourite.
I've grown boronia cat, but it has a short lifespan. It's great if you just treat it a bit like buying a bunch of flowers, but of course smells great for much longer.
Have a great day all โฅ