Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[kyliecrv]

I love Mr Freddie's sense of humor!  

when my husband was doing the hard yards with his cancer we maintained the laughs/jokes and it definately helps!

Amy I'm glad you found this thread, it is open to all and Goodluck with the decisions you have to make.

I was also wondering how your talk with hubs went the other night, did you get the feeling he wants to work on things or to separate? There is a lot to do if it is the latter. X

youcan- Hubs has been i out of the house now for nearly 2 weeks. I am slowly but firmly setting the boundaries. He is still trying his little manipulations here n there but I know this is the right thing, he may be a better man for someone else but he will never be for me.

the past few days he has done what I've asked and left as soon as the baby was in bed for the night, although tonight he did text me to say he wanted to stay for me, I rarely respond to messaging as he keeps it going all night! Weekends need working out too as he is here nearly all day! But Sunday is my nans bday lunch (which he asked me was he coming to? NO!!!!!) so he won't be able to be here all day.

[thebraff]

Good morning all  ~~~~   \0/

Freddie, such wonderful news about the progress that Mr Freddie is making. 

Continued thooughts and well wishes are being sent your way.

Amy, welcome to this thread.  *hug*.  As mentioned, this thread is for anyone.  Just think of it as sitting in your friends kitchen, you are having a cuppa and chatting about anything you feel like, but you are also free to vent or ask for advice.  If you have time you could read the first several pages of this thread to see what we are about.  Ms Cat has come through such a dark place that she is unrecognizable now.  There were many arms holding her up and the same can be given to you if you need it.

In other words, even when you feel alone, you will not be.

YCDI, glad you told the Bossman how things work  :^O

Have a wonderful time in your studio.

I miss MIA too.  I wish she would pop her head in and say Hi.

Kylie, I'm glad that the changes are happening for you even though they are moving slowly.  At least they are moving.   Be firm that he is not to come around on Sunday.  I hope the birthday lunch is a lovely occasion for your Nan.

Higs and hugs to everyone who pops in here whether you post or not.

[daydream**believer]

HI, thanks ladies.

The talk went as i expected it would. At first he said he thought everything was fine with us. He had just accepted the way our family was and he worked with it. He could not understand why i had any issues as i had everything i wanted and needed (thanks to him working so hard) and shouldnt complain.

When i tried to say that i just wish he wouldnt work so much, he got angry and threw it all back in my face. The work has to be done. He does it all. I never help. I am just looking for an excuse to be lazy etc.

Then some other mean things were said which i dont want to repeat.

Finally i said "well what happens now?"

And he said "Ive had it. I'll leave".

That was on Monday night and since then he now lives in the back family room.

Now and then he pops up to take food out of the cupboard, cause he wont eat any meal i prepare.

Some nights he doesnt see the kids and some nights he comes up and spends some time with them before disappearing back out the back as soon as they go to bed.

He doesnt talk to me at all.

So, im guessing he isnt going to leave. He has no where to go either.

[my2cuddlycats_not]

Oh Amy 😞 (((hugs)))

Higs and Hugs to all. XXXXXXX

[mainecoon1]

Good morning all you lovely OK'ers the sun is shinning and it is a beautiful day

I have not been on CS for nearly a week so it was lovely to catch up on all the news

Ms Mioux I am so glad you niece is back at home and is getting the help she needs.

Freddie I am so glad to hear mr freddie is doing well and it is nice to see he has such good taste "lobster" yum yum

Kylie good to hear things are starting to settle for you and that mr ex is starting to listen to you and leaving when he is told.  Samantha is a beautiful girl.

Amy I did not post in your thread but I did read some of it, I was going to send you a PM to suggest this thread so I am glad you have found your way into it.  Every time I come into ms mioux new home, I read the posts and feel sad but go away feeling happy as the advise and support that is given here is wonderful and it is nice to read the progress updates.

The reason I have not popped in for nearly a week is because I have been a clumsy klutz:-(.  I fell nearly 2 meters and landed directly on my right heel bone it did not come as a surprise when they told me I had  broken it.  As I have been doped up on pain killers I have been sleeping a lot.  I am a bit sad that I won't be able to go out Christmas shopping as I love Christmas  I am off work until mid January, thankfully I had a heap of sick leave up my sleeve so I don't have to use any of my normal leave

Have a great day and hugs to all

[thebraff]

Maine, that is a shame about your foot and sounds extremely painful too.

Are you able to go to the shopping centre with someone and then use one of the wheelchairs that the big centres provide?

It is a shame for you to miss out on something you love just because you can't walk on your foot...If the medication makes you sleepy you might need to take it while you are out and then finish what you are doing and then straight home to rest.

Schools start closing down from the end of next week so if you can get to the centre this week before the 'onslaught' it should be easier.

Amy, I don't know your story but there seems to be a few on here who do so be guided by them.

Also, my sister in law was legally separated from her hubby but they were still living in the same house.  You could have the same arrangement if there is that back room that is now his room.  You would be best to get legal advice on that though.

All the best to you.  Going by your post I am guessing that your children are still young.  Higs and hugs to you.

[mainecoon1]

Thanks thebraff

Good point I did not think of that, our local shopping centre does not have wheelchairs but if we go to the one a bit further on they do I will have to get one of my friends to take me in without OH so I can buy his pressies and stocking fillers.

[jack*in*a*box]

Good morning all the lovely OKers :-x

((freddie and Mr. Freddie)) It sounds like Mr. Freddie has kept his sense of humour through this tough time. It really helps to keep in good spirits. Freddie, you must be totally exhausted. I'm cheering for you both.

((Kylie)) and ((Amy))

OUCH Maincoon! That sounds terribly painful.

I missed Damo on t.v Braff. Did he host the morning show as well as expected?

Master 7 has been hounding me to put up the Christmas decorations so this afternoon it is. Christmas is about to vomit all over my house 😐

I'm a bit bah humbug this year. Mr. Potter says he loves Christmas and I'm trying to keep the excitement of it alive for Master 7.

This boyfriend thing is taking some getting used to. Some days I'm happy as a pig in mud and other days I'm just overwhelmed. I think it has moved too fast.

Have a great day peeps and try to keep cool.

[kyliecrv]

Maine.... Omg that a terrible fall!

you're not on your own are you? How are you getting about day to day?

love Braff suggestion about the wheelchair and getting it done before school finishes!

take care. X

[cat_mioux]

This thread got busy overnight!

Freddie darling Oh I wish we had some kind of OK Award for Grace Under Fire. Your humour and love and strength shine through. Mr Freddie sounds adorable, showing his gratitude to his medical support team. That's how you get through these challenges, the more gratitude you feel the more The Universe sends people and events to be grateful for. Love you lots. :-x

Amy I'm so rapt you found this thread. We are here, to listen and to give advice whether solicited or not ;). I can't express enough the collective wisdom in this thread is so extraordinary. Mrs Braff is right. Everyone here held me up during those dark and scary days when I thought my world was falling apart. I had no idea how I was going to manage - I was afraid of the dark, scared to be alone, only working part-time and I was losing, who I thought at the time, was the love of my life. There were times when I'd be driving in my car and found myself screaming at the top of my lungs in fear and frustration. I couldn't eat, watch TV, read a book, sleep. My life pared down to the very basics - my friends, family, this thread and chanting.

But I survived. And I'm happier than I've been for a long time.

There may be times when you can't see a way out. And that's okay. You don't know what to do yet. Give yourself time. If you make it your intention to separate, then imagine yourself and the kids happy and settled. Life has a way of working itself out. I'm not saying be passive. Many couples can live for years in a state of limbo remaining stuck in a state of mediocre suffering. But as long as you have a goal to work towards, intend it to be, and act when inspired to do so ... things will change. YCDI's mantra "you can do it" is a mantra worth repeating every day, every hour, and sometimes every minute!

Hugs to all, Cuddlybunny, Mrs Jacks (you deserve happiness!), YCDI (one of my favourite sayings too 'stupidity is doing the same thing over and over' lol), Mrs Braff 0/, She-Ele, Maine (sending healing thoughts!), our supergirl Kylie, and those I've missed  :-x