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Hi everyone!

Freddie:

My boy used to argue with the Doctors when he was on chemo. He would say, "but how can this make me better when it only makes me sick?"

Difficult concept for kids.

Freddie, chemo effects people different. My mother only sometimes felt nauseous but never once vomitted, even tho on aggressive treatment. My Aunt vomitted all the time and her chemo was not as strong., as did my son. Some get mouth ulcers even tho they had no oral chemo. Not everyone loses their hair.

Big thing he has to watch is not catching infections as he is wide open to that, but I am sure his treating team told him. Avoiding being in crowds like shopping centres is best, all it can take is someone to cough or sneeze over him and he can end up very sick in hospital. Carting around gel hand sanitiser is the trick when having to go out in public as it is hard to get used to not touching handrails, sides of escalators and such, then touching the face. ...and not wash hands in public toilets, use the gel instead.
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Good afternoon :-x

A good friend asked if she could hang out at my house while I was at work yesterday. Me, being a laid back kinda person, said yeah sure, have fun with the kitties.

I got back from work late last night and went to the pantry to get something to eat and she had fully stocked the pantry with food! Opened the fridge and she'd fully stocked it with fresh vege's, milk, cheese, juice ...

Then I went to the laundry and she'd fully stocked it with cleaning products/washing powder!

She said it was her plan all along. She made a note of food I ate and products I used and duplicated them.

And she'd stuck post-it-notes all over the house with inspiring words.

wow!

I have amazing friends :-x


Hugs to ms chuk, please let us know you are doing okay.
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I love your friend. I wish I had one just like her.
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Good afternoon :-x

A good friend asked if she could hang out at my house while I was at work yesterday. Me, being a laid back kinda person, said yeah sure, have fun with the kitties.

I got back from work late last night and went to the pantry to get something to eat and she had fully stocked the pantry with food! Opened the fridge and she'd fully stocked it with fresh vege's, milk, cheese, juice ...

Then I went to the laundry and she'd fully stocked it with cleaning products/washing powder!

She said it was her plan all along. She made a note of food I ate and products I used and duplicated them.

And she'd stuck post-it-notes all over the house with inspiring words.

wow!

I have amazing friends :-x


Hugs to ms chuk, please let us know you are doing okay.

That is AWESOME !!! You are such a lucky lady...well not lucky...karma in action !
โ™ฅTrishโ™ฅ
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(((cynth))) You have been amazing with your support for me over these last couple of months. To be able to do that means you are a compassionate and wise person with a big heart. Make it your mantra to open your heart to receive all the love that is your absolute right to receive because you are a Buddha heart. :-x

Thanks trish ๐Ÿ˜„
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chuk_77
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hi cat, yes I'm doing ok.
Had a few very bad days, still struggling with a few things on the home front but have decided to fight for what I want. I love this man and will not walk away without giving it my all to help him. This decision has taken a lot of soul searching talking to people and tears.
I told Mr chuk last night and he hugged me and cried and has also taken the first step in getting help.
It's going to be hard emotional and may not turn out how I'd like it but I can not walk away without trying. I have played a part in this by not seeing the pain in him I have taken him for granted and we both need to make changes
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chuk I'm so relieved you have posted! I had a feeling you were going through some really bad days. ๐Ÿ˜ž

You sound stronger and I absolutely agree that you should fight for your man. We should never give up without doing our very best and I know you love him. We are here for you whenever you need a shoulder to cry on or to share good news ..

Remember to take care of yourself too chuk. :-x
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chuk_77
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cat i'm sorry if you were worried, I was in a very bad place and feeling very negative couldn't see a way out and things were very black.
Don't know really how strong I am, just feel calmer after making a decision. It could blow out of the water as today is a different day so he may be a different person but he knows how stubborn I am and he has said he doesn't really want me to leave but wants to take himself away from his environment to stop being side tracked so he can think. Thats fair enough I reckon. He is confused and hurting and it has killed him seeing my hurt. There are family stuff on top of it which is a worry to us both but in a weird way has made us slightly closer and turning to the other for support.
I'm slowly eating again and had my first drink for a week, I know I over did it last week. So I'm trying to take care of me just hard when everyone around me is also falling apart.
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Good for you chuck, you do what ever it is you need to do, because this is your life, no-one elses.
Don't sit by yourself being miserable on those dark days. You have friends here that can provide some brightness for you.
All the best for whatever is ahead for you and your partner. I truly hope you can make it work. x cyn
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Chuk, that is good to hear. I am all in favour of hanging in and trying to work things out as long as there is hope.

If you are going to help him though, there is one important thing you need to have always in the front of your mind. This is his problem, not yours.

How ever much you care for him, you are not responsible for his emotional wellbeing. You can, and I know you will, be there for him and give him all the help you can, but in the end whether he comes out of this OK does not depend on you.
And never, ever forget that your own wellbeing is every bit as important as his. :-x



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