Cat_mioux's new home

[cat_mioux]

:^O

[cynthecowgirl]

All you need to be concerned with is knowing that you tried and that you were prepared to keep trying. He wasn't. You can go to your grave knowing you never gave up and be proud of that.

[the_great_she_elephant]

Orange knickers time, Cat. :^O Give yourself a treat tomorrow then come and tell us all about it. :-x

[cynthecowgirl]

To this day I still believe that if the other woman had have left my hubby alone like I asked them both to their faces to do, then we'd have been able ot work it out.

Then the common sense part of me takes over and says, ÿeah, but for how long? Till the next floozy takes his eye? Would I be spending the rest of my life looking for those signs all over again? Going through all that stress."

No I'm glad he walked out, it was the best thing he ever did for me, coz I'm not sure I'd have ever have reached that point to stop him and say, ënough....you need to go."I'd have just been the worlds biggest sucker and kept sitting on the sidelines waiting for him to throw me some hope that everything was going to be ok. Like a loyal dog waiting for a scrap of affection.

2 and a half years down the track I can see I don't want to be living my life like that, but back then I couldn't see any hope for me if he was gone.

pffftttttt what an idiot I was.

[dtrh3]

Dear Ms Cat,

Thank you for replying-and mmm that G&T hits the spot..

(The only thing I want to say,about him,-as an observer-is that Mr is lost to you,and he may,Im afraid,become more of a stranger.He is on his own journey now..)

I am all over the way a persons mind can wander and curve back on its self
and how,at times a person can shift into old behaviours.Its all very natural-after all you used to care.Healing can be about shifting the thoughts..

I sincerely think you are doing SO well,and I know others here think the same.We are terribly impressed by you-you are a work in process and when you own this sense,you will be able to appreciate how far you have come and how whole you are..terribly impressed!!

[dtrh3]

I forgot :-x

Must be the G&T!!!

[cynthecowgirl]

That's why I'm so adamant cat that you can get through this.

I was so adamant that I couldn't. I was eyeing off trees along the highway to run the car into I was that bad and I'll be damned if I'll let you ever feel like that.

I've lived though some bad things in my life, but his infidelity has hurt me and affected me more than the death or illness of loved ones.

Don't ever be ashamed of being low and know that when you're sitting on the bottom of that barrel that you'll just have to look up and we'll all be hanging over the side with our hands out stretched ready to help pull you out. X

[buzzlightyearsgirlfriend]

Orange knickers time, Cat. :^O Give yourself a treat tomorrow then come and tell us all about it. :-x

I actually bought a pair of orange undies at Target the other day. I saw them on sale and thought of Mioux. I got one pair in orange, one in purple and one in black.

Hugs to you Mioux. XXXXX

[puddleback]

eww! I just found out today he spent hours with her on Sat when he was supposed to be thinking about 'us'. That was the one thing I asked him not to do on the weekend. Not contact her. So he does one better and visits her. 😐

Cat... he did not intend to seriously think of 'üs'...he is totally selfish and only thinking of how he can make things easy for himself. Don't waste any more emotion on him..he is not worth it.

[cat_mioux]

Thank you :-x

I am doing as well as can be expected. I'm actually feeling better right now. he's gone to bed finally, closed down his FB. I HATE seeing him sitting on the sofa talking to her. *rolls eyes*

Yes I gave him ample opportunities to work with me to fix this but no to no avail. So I can say I gave it my best and now I can walk away with my head held high at least.

Now he has gone to bed I can sit in the living room and watch a DVD, cuddle with my kitties and take a Panadol for this thumping, 'lack of sleep/shellshock' headache.

Love to all, you truely are my friends. :-x

PS Thanks for the laughs too

[keeliaclare]

.. it was SO HARD to stop myself asking if he wanted a cheese roll today. *rolls eyes*.



LOL...oh yeah, I remember going to visit Mr Ex, having the talk, then automatically as I left,( him sitting on the kitchen chair,) bending down to kiss him on his forehead....LOL...old habits die hard!