Ok, weird!
i replied by saying that I was not working today, only mon, tues & we'd.
enjoyed some time with my kids while they are still on school hols โค๏ธ
the past few days I have started to relax and feel like we were getting somewhere with this split...... I told him my plans for selling the new car and getting 2 smaller cars from it, and selling the 2nd car and splitting the $. He has been looking up cars for sale happily!
after several conversations of my insisting that this anniversary was not to be celebrated, I was hopeful he would respect my wishes.
i replied by saying that I was not working today, only mon, tues & we'd.
enjoyed some time with my kids while they are still on school hols โค๏ธ
the past few days I have started to relax and feel like we were getting somewhere with this split...... I told him my plans for selling the new car and getting 2 smaller cars from it, and selling the 2nd car and splitting the $. He has been looking up cars for sale happily!
after several conversations of my insisting that this anniversary was not to be celebrated, I was hopeful he would respect my wishes.
I was WRONG!
why would he respect MY wishes, this relationship is all and ONLY about his wants/needs, not mine!
i woke to a written happy anniversary note love you blah blah.
then at lunchtime long text about how he constantly thinks about me n love me soooo much blah blah
Then he phoned my son and asked him to go into the baby's room and slide open window so he could sneak in gifts for me and leave them on my bed! Son said " no mum will get angry!"
so he marched in with 6 dozen red roses, body shop gift bag, big huge card, and the damn Michael Hill gift bag! I was furious!
i started shaking my head, and he was just talking over mehow he wants to do this blah blblah then he rushed around being all helpful with the baby, then took off to get take away for the family
Oh, didn't mention that he brought the kids bribe gifts.... A PS3 game for my son ($80) and bouquet roses for my daughter, god I hate the manipulation!
his big plan that he bragged to my son about, and he actually ignored my wishes and wasted BIG money on it!
he is currently asleep on the lounge, 7 weeks now, not changing any time soon!
im furious at him, livid in fact!
ive cleaned out my busted back shed, and need a slab, mini skip and new garden shed, and the $1200 he wasted on today wouldVe more than covered that, there is much maintenance need doing around here!
why would he respect MY wishes, this relationship is all and ONLY about his wants/needs, not mine!
i woke to a written happy anniversary note love you blah blah.
then at lunchtime long text about how he constantly thinks about me n love me soooo much blah blah
Then he phoned my son and asked him to go into the baby's room and slide open window so he could sneak in gifts for me and leave them on my bed! Son said " no mum will get angry!"
so he marched in with 6 dozen red roses, body shop gift bag, big huge card, and the damn Michael Hill gift bag! I was furious!
i started shaking my head, and he was just talking over mehow he wants to do this blah blblah then he rushed around being all helpful with the baby, then took off to get take away for the family
Oh, didn't mention that he brought the kids bribe gifts.... A PS3 game for my son ($80) and bouquet roses for my daughter, god I hate the manipulation!
his big plan that he bragged to my son about, and he actually ignored my wishes and wasted BIG money on it!
he is currently asleep on the lounge, 7 weeks now, not changing any time soon!
im furious at him, livid in fact!
ive cleaned out my busted back shed, and need a slab, mini skip and new garden shed, and the $1200 he wasted on today wouldVe more than covered that, there is much maintenance need doing around here!
I didn't touch any of the things he brought in, and just before he went to sleep asked him to please move all his items away as my visitors are arriving at 9am and I want a clean house!
he looked all confused and said that I needed to put the flowers in water, and I calmly told him that I have repeatedly said I'm not accepting these things and he needs to get rid of them.
The are drying out on the kitchen bench and I guess with the heat they will be dead soon enough.
i again insisted he goes back to the jeweller ASAP and return the unwanted ridiculously expensive gift as I WILL NOT ever open the packet.
he just won't accept any of this. I wish I was mean enough to walk them all out to the bin but I just can't.
I have considered taking them out to this car so he can take them to work tomorrow and I get my kitchen bench back and not have Tom look at them!
he will forever see this as him making this massive gesture and me being a biarch, I see it as yet again he doesn't listen or care about what I want, just important he gets that he wants!
he looked all confused and said that I needed to put the flowers in water, and I calmly told him that I have repeatedly said I'm not accepting these things and he needs to get rid of them.
The are drying out on the kitchen bench and I guess with the heat they will be dead soon enough.
i again insisted he goes back to the jeweller ASAP and return the unwanted ridiculously expensive gift as I WILL NOT ever open the packet.
he just won't accept any of this. I wish I was mean enough to walk them all out to the bin but I just can't.
I have considered taking them out to this car so he can take them to work tomorrow and I get my kitchen bench back and not have Tom look at them!
he will forever see this as him making this massive gesture and me being a biarch, I see it as yet again he doesn't listen or care about what I want, just important he gets that he wants!
Thanks cat, I hate how he manipulates me. I actually felt sorry for him for a bit, but then I thought NO he doesn't care for my feelings!!
my son went to get the dinner with him and apparently there is a clear plastic box full of rose petals, obviously he truly believed we'd end up in bed together (one of his little romantic tricks from the old days to sprinkle rose petals on the bed to drop onto passionately, seriously wtf?)
anyway if all the flowers n gifts stay here I will constantly be reminded how he went against my wishes and lives in a constant state of denial!
tonight I have taken furthers measure to show him I will not be worn down to continue his games... I took all the wedding pics down and put up baby pics of Samantha.
i also put the flowers and gifts at the front door so can't miss them with a note to PLEASE take them all away or I will be forced to bin them!
i have friends coming here bright n early n I will be forced rot tell them era out it all if he leaves it.
my son went to get the dinner with him and apparently there is a clear plastic box full of rose petals, obviously he truly believed we'd end up in bed together (one of his little romantic tricks from the old days to sprinkle rose petals on the bed to drop onto passionately, seriously wtf?)
anyway if all the flowers n gifts stay here I will constantly be reminded how he went against my wishes and lives in a constant state of denial!
tonight I have taken furthers measure to show him I will not be worn down to continue his games... I took all the wedding pics down and put up baby pics of Samantha.
i also put the flowers and gifts at the front door so can't miss them with a note to PLEASE take them all away or I will be forced to bin them!
i have friends coming here bright n early n I will be forced rot tell them era out it all if he leaves it.
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