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Jacks thats sad about your Aunties husband ๐
In the past 2 days we have also heard of 2 male deaths, distant friends, but sad for the families.
So Kylie it's still all about him! X-( Making you feel guilty and continuing to include your children with his incompetance.
I'm glad you are ignoring his texts.
How did your friend react? Did you discuss the situation with them? I really feel for you Kylie. You deserve better.
OMG! I just checked my email and I got a long blerb at 4am, it accuses me of threatening him with Samantha!!!!
ALso that he is now fully commited to keeping the family together and will help out around the house a lot more when he can......
and that I should've basically given him the alternative (Im guessing that means threaten divorce) about getting the ring I really wanted for my bday and he would've got it, and I may be lucky to get an even bigger one for my 50th!!!
He's lost his mind!
I did end up discussing with my g'friend that day as she has known me for about 15 years and has known how hard things have been for me with this relationship. Not much advice from her but support, so that is nice.
I know that I deserve better! Im angry/ upset/ confused/ stressed! I feel so trapped and manipulated by him.
Ive told him point blank that I DO NOT love him, and it makes absolutely no difference what-so-ever.
Last nights outburst/tantrum is because he phoned me at work yesty and asked me straight out for sox! I said NO CHANCE, but when I got home at 7pm instead of helping start the families dinner I found him asleep, this was so he'd be able to stay awake to do it!!! He downed a massive energy drink, and once the kids were in bed, put the hard word on me again!!!!
I firmly reminded him that I still feel the same as the other 100 times that Ive told him we will NOT be doing that anymore, and really, how many separating couples are still doing it????
He gave the devo look, and sat on the lounge giving me greasy looks as I swept & mopped the floors before heading to my room to sleep.
Thats when all the texting began....
Kylie it must be some comfort to know he most probably will be a good father to Samantha so you can trust him having access. Does all your family know your plans to separate? I was going to ask if they are supportive but I already know the answer would be yes. :-x
Does all your family know your plans to separate? I was going to ask if they are supportive
I hadnt told my family about most of this, although they could see that I wasnt happy.
I really was worried that with all the "on again off agains" that they may not support me this time! (of course I should've known better!!!)
So.... (this sounds odd I know).... they found out from a message from my late husband through a psychic, and asked me if it was true.... that's when I unloaded all the goings on, and it's just accelerated from then on....
They will not interfere until I ask for help but are there to support me & kids no matter what the situation. I am so grateful for all of them. โฅ
He was asleep at 7pm? Where were the children? He slept to be able to please you later? Where was he during dinner prep?
Yes, apparently he'd been asleep for hours!
My kids were doing homework/ watching tv/ doing chores (hanging washing).
YES, in his mind, by having the nap he'd be able to perform better (there have been some bedroom issues as well).
During dinner prep he likes to do little jobs around the house so I "see" him do it, therefore he gets due credit! *insert eyeroll*
He didn't pitch in when he saw you mopping the floor?
No he didnt help, he'd been watching me all night clean the kitchen, wash & remake bottles, make the school lunches and iron the uniforms!
Hahaha,,, omg, after I worked all day, come home to make dinner, feed & bath baby THEN do all the above chores.... as if sox was going to happen anyway ... even if we werent separating!!!!!
Kylie.. you have been living the single life already. I wouldn't be afraid of doing it alone.
I know i have, and he is just so much extra work for me, that I wish he'd just leave so I can get on with it!
I know I can raise these kids alone, I worked damn hard after my 1st husband passed away to bring up the kids into strong happy teenagers and they are fantastic kids!
It's great that you have your family's support. And your son should certainly not be involved with his point of view. That's really wrong...but you know that anyway.
That REALLY annoys me when he tells the kids "his side" or unloads his 'sads' or bribes them off!
Like buying THEM anniversary gifts as well!! (PS3 game and roses)..... *pffft* ....They see right thru it!
He always always throws it back in their faces if they give him any attitude or dont do what he asks!
AND I detest when he's stuffed up and begs the kids "dont tell mum or she will kick me out!" Grrrrrrr!!!
Sorry peeps for all the venting here today! ๐
My sis has a day off work with Wedding appointments and in the quiet times my mind wanders to him! Trying to stay busy!!
I just got a text asking hadnt I read the email? And then as I didnt respond (I was busy with a client), text again "No response???"
I text back "No response, you know how I feel"
ARGH..... he always thinks one email from him and all the problems are gone!
The way he's dealing with all of this is actually making me dislike him even more!!
Higs and Hugs to all.
Special thoughts to Kylie and Cat, and Mrs and Mr Freddie, and to Jacks and........ ahh, you all get special thoughts and hugs. :-x:-x:-x
Cat, I know, my get up and go got up and went long time ago, and I am struggling to care *sigh*....
