Do you still catch up with your ex-partner?

[the_bob_delusion]

If so in what capacity?

Is there a rule you can't hang out with your ex if you have a new partner??

[lakeland27]

in my case its more a case of taking precautions to avoid such an eventuality

crikey your OH hates those mates of yours, he's just too polite a chap to say so.

[*crikey*mate*]

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@joz*garage wrote:

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@diamond-halo wrote:

ewwww

My best friend is an ex, and another close friend is also an ex (I was engaged to him before I met my OH), they came as part of the package that is me, so my OH learned to like them too.

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(iwasn't being serious)

your hubby must have great trust in you (or them) *yawns

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I chose to be with him.

And he knows that i worship the ground he walks on. He knows he's perfect for me. But my friends were there before i even met him, so they were part of the deal. But he knows that he's the best thing that ever happened to me and that he has no worries.

For a lot of years we were all spread around the world, and more recently, dif States of Aust, so we used to have to travel a bit to catch up, but now my best friend lives in the same suburb as me, just around the corner, So life is sweet.

We all catch up every new years eve, a core group of about 6 of us. We all work out some way to be in the same place for NYE, was usually Sydney as three of them were working there, and I was also in Aust, but the NYE just gone we met up in London LOL

[*crikey*mate*]

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@lakeland27 wrote:

in my case its more a case of taking precautions to avoid such an eventuality

crikey your OH hates those mates of yours, he's just too polite a chap to say so.

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yeah, at times he gets a bit frustrated as we are all pretty close, but as I said, he knows I adore him and wouldn't be with anyone else, But that doesn't mean we have to live in each others pockets, either. He doesn't own me. He doesn't get to choose who my friends are. Nor do I choose his.

[amber-eyed-girl]

There was an article recently about control...that it can be a bad thing for the current relationship to insist on a partner not seeing friends for one reason or another.

[poddster]

My ex and i have the best relationship EVER !! 🙂

We have not spoken or sighted each other in around 18 years 🙂

[*crikey*mate*]

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@amber-eyed-girl wrote:
There was an article recently about control...that it can be a bad thing for the current relationship to insist on a partner not seeing friends for one reason or another.

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I knoiw I'm really lucky. He's confident enough that he never tried to own or control me. Just be with me. It's why I bolted the first time I was engaged. I don't do so well with being owned and controlled. And i refuse to be told what to wear and when to wear it. That was the nail in the coffin for the first one.

[boris1gary]

Most of my friends are men, so yes, yes, yes and yes and one- not if it can be avoided.

[amber-eyed-girl]

Halo, you are also lucky with your friends 🙂

That they are real friends, and wanted that to be there with you. After things ended relationship-wise.

If you know what I mean...no stupid stuff.

[lakeland27]

they lurk , all the time scheming..waiting for cracks to appear.

[boris1gary]

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@lakeland27 wrote:

they lurk , all the time scheming..waiting for cracks to appear.

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are your exes lurky plasterers?