Foster carers

lady*em
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Not sure if there are any foster carers here any more, but I'm hoping there may be.

I know someone who has two children in her care, who were both molested by family members, which is how they came to be in care. This person broke up from a long term partner a while ago. She has recently met someone else and has been posting pictures on fb of this man with his arm around one of the young girls, and his face up against hers. She looks quite uncomfortable.

Isn't it part of dept rules that such physical contact is not really allowed? Especially from someone who is barely known to the foster mother, let alone the kids. This man is throwing money at the foster mother, and she appears to be forgetting good judgement in return. In fact, she is behaving much like a schoolgirl. I'm not sure how to suggest she take care with this, and was hoping that if there were definite dept rules about this sort of thing, that that would be a good starting point. Any foster carers, or former ones,about who could help? Thanks.
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I am sure that both partners had to be approved to be given foster kids.  If the woman now has a new partner he would have to be also approved by the department.  She should have immediately notified the department of any changes to her relationship, and you do not know if she did or did not.  But if you feel that there is something sus going on, call the DOCS and let them check it out.

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Just call the relevant dept. in your state have a chat with a worker, make a report. It might be nothing, but do what you think is right.

 

 

 

 



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Thanks everyone. I might make a call to the dept for a chat tomorrow. The foster mum has had a few people voice concern with her whirlwind romance and how much he is with the kids without any screening from the department. But she doesn't want to hear it, because she is being showered with gifts and weekends away. He is in all probability a nice person, but kids in care need different protections I feel.
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I think that's the sensible responsible thing to do Lady Em.

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