Have you ever "accidentally" ended up in a relationship?

aspie*mum
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I had a horrifyingly awful breakup with my fiance in August last year.  By September I had moved cities, got a new job, got my child into a new school and settled back into my life.  I also went out with my girlfriends one night (to drown my sorrows) and met an extremely good looking Kiwi who I ended up having a passionate night with (which was good for my self esteem).  


 


I never intended to see him again but we spent the next 2 months sending text messages which consisted of little more than "Bootie call?" and "when / where?".  I was not looking for a boyfriend (in fact made it very clear I wasn't!) and this worked extremely well.


 


HOWEVER, by November we'd gone to the movies together a few times.  Gone to the beach a couple of times.  By December he'd met some of my friends and I'd met his.  By January we went on a holiday together for 4 days (I should have listened to my wise girlfriend who stated "bootie calls don't go on holidays together" and (horror OH horror) he's started introducing me as his girlfriend.


 


So, I have accidentally gotten myself a boyfriend.  And the timing is so bad.  I've basically ended up jumping from one relationship to another without having any "me" time in between!


 


A lovely boyfriend.  A great looking boyfriend.  But a thoroughly unsuitable flirty tarty boyfriend.  


 


And I didn't want a boyfriend.


 


But, I have one and he's so lovely to me that I don't really want to get rid of him.

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Go with the flow - there's no ring on your finger - you can still bail when you want - from the sounds of your other thread, you seem like you could do with someone nice to spend "me time with"


 


If he treats you nicely, you like spending time with him and he fits in with your lifestyle, I can't see anything wrong with knowing where your next booty call is coming from...


 


(even though he's a Kiwi........runs>>>>>>>>>)


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Yeah it's happened to me a couple of times... I'm kinda in the situation right now. He wants to do things like come to my fracture clinicappointments  and do things around the house. Bleh. 


 


 

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Oi, Crikey, What's wrong with being a Kiwi??? :^O


 


Aspie Mum, as long as you are open and honest with him about where the relationship is headed, go with the flow and enjoy life. :-x

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Yes, the Kiwi thing is a bit of a worry.  I've even started picking up his vernacular and referring to awesome things as "choice" calling people "bro" and saying "real" and "true"........and I now know how to say seven! see-vn!

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Ah, but have you started adding  "eh" (or "ay" depending on your spelling preferences) to the end of all your sentences??


 


And when you go looking for your jandals and chilly bin, the process is complete!


 


:^O:^O:^O

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Just be careful when he brings his wellington boots with him, you will know its serious then:O

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haha...he is off to the land of the long white cloud for a week and told me he'll bring me and my daughter back some genuine NZ made jandals!!!!  They are choice ay??!!!  


 


I wonder if they have sheep on them?

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Just be careful when he brings his wellington boots with him, you will know its serious then:O



 


Kiwi's don't wear "Wellington boots" :O:O:O


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


We wear gumboots and without them we'd be in all sorts of strife! :^O:^O:^O:^O

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We wear gumboots and without them we'd be in all sorts of strife! :^O:^O:^O:^O



 


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7X2b2x7Fw4o


 


Sorry, there's only audio  - but Fred Dagg at his best!

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