@azureline** wrote:I suppose it will be a different answer for many.......... I would rather be here with my family than dead.
I have been giving a lot of thought to this lately, given my regular presence at the nursing home.
I was wondering.... are we doing the right thing keeping people with Alzhiemers and Dementia in the best of health with nutritious food, warm clothing, comfort etc? and I felt torn.
Yesterday I decided we are........
I went on a bus trip with about 10 of the residents, all the ones who aren't really "with us" most of the time......some slept all the way......but when we reached our destination, they all smiled and looked around, some walked through parkland, some just sat, however, the difference in them when we got back was amazing. Still smiling and some were reminiscing about who and what they had seen, for several hours.
What a lovely story azure...
Its so tricky, isnt it...I imagine it can be quite distressing for family when visiting..
There used to be this elderly pair of identical twin women in my neighbourhood who lived together and would do their shopping together. We had a bit of a nodding acquaintance as they walked past my place each day, and they dressed in identical outfits, but different colours..One week a few months ago, I realised I hadnt seen them for a few weeks and wondered what had happened..Then I started seeing one of the ladies, by herself, walking up the street, and in the supermarket we were in the same queue and she said hello to me and said- 'theres only one of us now, my sister left me- she passed away.' I said that I was sorry to hear it, and that it was nice to see her, and she said 'I think my doctor thinks Im going anyday as well, but I will show him.There spirit in these old bones yet! Of course, I miss her, but what I really miss is being able to play tricks on other people, when we would pretend to be the other one!! We had a lot of laughs doing that, all our lives!'
To be 91 and have attitude like that- when I see her, I always think- you go girl!! 
