Love thy neighbour. How far should it go?

[kengillard]

I and 2 other neighbours have been made ....by default....  responsible for our neighbours health.  She's been sent home from hospital after 10 days, having spent a day and a night in the rain on the concrete outside her back door. After I found her, I called the ambulance who tried to get her to come with them....refused...police were called...  had her stomach drained of fluid.   Sent home on Friday last...had another fall on Saturday....went to see her this morning..she had another fall and ambulance took her to hospital again.

Because she's so stubborn and negative...72.....they can't help her unless she agrees....meanwhile they send her home to an empty house............cos she told them "my friend and my neighbours will look after me."    

It's ridiculous....we are not responsible for her welfare.  she has a son up north that she refuses to be notified as her next of kin. 

So that leaves us 3...should she come home again.  I'm  looking after her 2 dogs and others are feeding and watering her geese etc..

Surely there's some agency or other that can step in?   

Any suggestions anyone.  I don't mind helping but this is getting ridiculous.  How long does she have to lie out/in before someone finds her (prob me)...before anyone will do anything definite to save her from herself?

[jvharrison]

Way to go Gill sounds like you had some progress.....:)

[jimmy*part4]

I want Gill as a neighbour!

*driveway needs the snow shoveled!* 🙂

[kengillard]

ho ho Jimmy.......you'd have to teach me...no snow round here in Qld.

[bright.ton42]

Honestly, how many of us could say we have neighbours as caring as Kengillard?    I certainly haven't.  

I think if I was sitting on the pavement they would just cross the street, lol.  

[lind9650]

I have!

The most wonderful neighbour I could ever wish for. She is 88years old and still does more for needy neighbours than anything for herself.

14 years ago when my previous husband passed away, I fell into deep depression because of personal conflicts. I could not eat and lived on coffee and cigarettes, but my darling neighbour made sure that I ate at least one meal a day by asking me to come and share her dinner, or she would bring me a plate and say; "It's hot, sit down and eat it now." while she was talking to me, making sure I ate something.

We had a gentleman living in one of the units, who moved there when battling with cancer. Our lovely neighbour found out what diet he was on and cooked meals for him until he moved to full care facilities.

She has done those kind things most of her life. Always makes time for others.

I'll be forever grateful to her, and now that she can not drive anymore, Peter takes her everywhere she has to go. She is talking about moving in to our Lodge soon. I'll miss her terribly, but it's only acrooss the road, so I'll be visiting as much as possible.

Yes, there are a few wonderful selfless people around. I was blessed to have one of them as my next door neighbour.
Those kind of people hardly ever get recognition or even a "Thank you." from the people they help. They have a heart of gold and never ask for anything in return.

Erica

[azureline**]

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@bright.ton42 wrote:

Honestly, how many of us could say we have neighbours as caring as Kengillard?    I certainly haven't.  

I think if I was sitting on the pavement they would just cross the street, lol.  

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To have a friend you need to be a friend.

To have a good neighbour, you need to be a good neighbour.

[bright.ton42]

Well thanks for the  pulpit   preaching    - not.;  I'm certainly not going into defensive mode here about the 'good deeds' I do and how many other good neighbours I have but that is one of the most judgemental posts I've read in a long time.  You know absolutely nothing about me.  Having a bad day?

[freddie*rooster]

I doubt Az was directing her post at you, in fact i'm sure she wasn't, it's not her way at all.

[bright.ton42]

Why quote   my  post then?   It was mostly written tongue in cheek btw.  

[azureline**]

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@bright.ton42 wrote:

Why quote   my  post then?   It was mostly written tongue in cheek btw.  

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sorry, it wasn't directed at you, it was just something that popped into my mind when I read your post, it was about Gilly being a lovely neighbour.

My neighbours are generally very nice and some have been extremely nice and helpful to me too. My OH was very ill for some time a few years ago and one neighbour used to sneak over when we were out and mow the lawns, do edges etc.

Today I had to pop over the road and block up a hole in a fence, the dog was stuck by the head, digging himself out. This neighbour is not a particularly nice one, so not sure how it will be received.

Again, sorry it was misunderstood.