Martini Poll Time: How do you feel about open relationships?

[i-need-a-martini]

This one is for you joono :^O

[aspie*mum]

🙂  I believe you can be in love with more than one person at a time, just as you can love more than one child at a time!  You don't stop loving your first child because you have a second!  Same as being in love with a partner, just because you love someone doesn't mean you can't love someone else.

But I don't think you need to even have feelings for other people in an open relationship, probably less complicated if you don't.

But it's perfectly normal to be attracted physically to other people when you are in a relationship.  It doesn't mean you don't love each other.  It's just human nature.  And if you are both ok with those feelings being acted upon, so what?  As long as everyone is open and honest about it, no one gets hurt.

Use condoms!

[everything*that*i*ever*wanted]

Nope never. Don't see the point in being in a relationship if they aren't "enough".

[bella_again]

No way I made vows with my partner to remain faithful if it were an open relationship I wouldn't have married him because I would never agree to it.  I don't see the point in getting married if one wants to sleep around anyway.  By definition it wouldn't be marriage in the traditional sense.

I did see the lady on TV that claims its helpful to some marriage relationships but quite frankly there are no real figures to support that theory anyway.

[id_pending]

There wasn't an option for my answer...

To each their own. Not something I would want ( or could deal with) but to each their own. Some seem to be able to make it work etc.

[bright.ton42]

And if you are both ok with those feelings being acted upon, so what?  

To me that is the bottom line. BOTH ok.  So often I've know of women who do it

for their partners' sake and felt  very insecure in the process.  

[**tay**]

I'm with id_pending, not something I'd ever do, but what other people do is their own choice.

[mlor16]

I often wonder if both partners are as enthusiastic or if one partner is just going along in order to keep the other partner in the relationship. It reminds me of sister wives and similar types of relationships where the male has many wives. The women never look very happy to me. They say they are happy but they always look kind of jealous and sad.

[2106greencat]

I'm single, so maybe my opinion won't count, but....

If my man was okay about me being with another man, I don't think that would be indicitive of true love. How could anyone feel loved by their partner if their partner was okay with that??

Hard to explain what I really mean, but if I thought he was with another woman, that would hurt - but for him to be okay with me being with another man would hurt more.

Make sense?