Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

[daydream**believer]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/older-kids/behaviour-and-discipline-for-older-kids/mum-has-no-regret...

"A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads,

My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Thoughts on this?

I personally agree with the guy that defended the mum by writing ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions and also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

I asked my 13 year old daughter what she thought of this and she also agrees with what the Mum did. She said "The girl was bullying people online, hiding behind the computer so her punishment should be shared online as well"

[izabsmiling]

as you yourself have said I think ????

they don't need to read it to be cyberbullied 

and the Mum can still go on cyberbullying

she obviously doesn't appreciate how damaging cyberbullying can be herself ..... or she wouldn't have done it to her daughter .

Am3 , I haven't read them....are they using the Mum's mentality too ?

one doesn't excuse or validate the other does it ?

[cherry*135]

The Mum is subject to cyberbullying in this thread.

[daydream**believer]

"In the long run the mother isnt doing the daughter any favours by doing this."

I disagree. The daughter has been taught a lesson.

The Mum wasnt bullying. The sign wasnt cruel. It wasnt even detailed as to what the girl had been doing. It was just saying who was selling the ipod, why and where the proceeds would be going

[cherry*135]

The child’s mother, Cara Schneider, responded to the comments and accusations by explaining the photo was the latest discipline method in a long line of consequences, including grounding and manual labor, to teach Hailey that her online behavior is important. The photo was posted to Facebook yard sale site so the iPod could be sold. She had no intention of it going viral.

http://www.examiner.com/article/mother-speaks-out-about-accusations-she-bullied-her-bully-daughter-o...

[daydream**believer]

"as you yourself have said I think ????

they don't need to read it to be cyberbullied"

yes, i have said that when it comes to kids cyber bullying kids in within their school.

This pic was put on a garage sale site where the ipod was advertised.

[izabsmiling]

and now it is world wide news isn't it ?

[cherry*135]

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@the_great_she_elephant wrote:

It would be interesting - and instructive  - to know what the social media response was on Hayley's FB page to this 'shaming' .

I think, an apology on her page to the girls she had bullied would have been appropriate - a photo of her holding up a placcard was, in my opinion, unnecessary and unhelpful

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You think the daughter still has a FB account???????????????

[**meep**]

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@am*3 wrote:
This girl was a cyberbully..if she has now been cyberbullied..she will now know what it feels like?

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I wasn't sure what to think at first.  Not knowing the full story - had she been warned?  Did she not listen?  Why did the mother think this was a suitable punishment?  Maybe bullies don't learn any other way.......As you said, she now knows what it feels like.  Hopefully something good will come of this and will stop other bullies.

[daydream**believer]

So shes been bullying for a while and all other punishments failed.

I wonder how much grief she caused her victims. I wonder if they think her punishment fits her crime

[*mrgrizz*]

there is a difference between bullying and punishment