Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

[daydream**believer]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/older-kids/behaviour-and-discipline-for-older-kids/mum-has-no-regret...

"A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads,

My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Thoughts on this?

I personally agree with the guy that defended the mum by writing ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions and also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

I asked my 13 year old daughter what she thought of this and she also agrees with what the Mum did. She said "The girl was bullying people online, hiding behind the computer so her punishment should be shared online as well"

[the_great_she_elephant]

It would be interesting - and instructive  - to know what the social media response was on Hayley's FB page to this 'shaming' .

I think, an apology on her page to the girls she had bullied would have been appropriate - a photo of her holding up a placcard was, in my opinion, unnecessary and unhelpful

[punch*drunk]

If she bullied someone on social media it was most likely public and she should be far more embarrassed about that than her mother making her advertise her punishment.

its refreshing to see a parent admit their child is no angel, my experience of bullies is that the parents would never believe their little darling could do the wrong thing, let alone enforce any consequences if they did. They usually just make excuses for their poor behaviour.

[cherry*135]

The photo was placed on a FB yard sale page as an explanation as to why the girl was selling her ipod etc.

I doubt the girl still has a FB account. That would be the first thing to go if you caught your child cyberbullying imo.

[cherry*135]

This girl was a cyberbully..if she has now been cyberbullied..she will now know what it feels like?

[the_great_she_elephant]

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@am*3 wrote:
This girl was a cyberbully..if she has now been cyberbullied..she will now know what it feels like?

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An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth  - carry that to its logical concusion and see where it leads  you.

[izabsmiling]

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@am*3 wrote:
This girl was a cyberbully..if she has now been cyberbullied..she will now know what it feels like?

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and her parent is legally an adult 

what is her defence for her cyberbullying ....of a Child no less

to me it's like saying 'don't punch it's wrong'....and punishing a child by punching them 

[izabsmiling]

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@am*3 wrote:
'You only see a picture you don't know our story'

So true for a lot of stuff we read in the media.

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and who is to thank for this being in the media ? 

[purple_haize]

I agree with bluecat & Iza...........the mother is doing the same as her daughter did..........but she is doing it to her daughter. In the long run the mother isnt doing the daughter any favours by doing this.

The mother isnt thinking long term as to what the consequences of HER actions will have on her daughter..........it is all very well to show her daughter up by putting pics of her up............but I dont believe that is the right way to go.........

[cherry*135]

Has the mother or will it be likely the mother will be charged with cyberbullying? For one photo/text on a FB yard sale page? Her daughter could have refused to hold up the sign, destroyed it and not stood still for the photo.

All the 'hate' towards her now, is cyberbullying

[daydream**believer]

the daugter wont be able to be cyber bullied by stangers as she will have no ipod to read it.