My brother and Self Defense

[herbto3]

My mum and I dont know what to do anymore. We are in the NT. Several weeks ago my brother defended himself against the full on intoxicated estranged spouse as she wanted him to go and buy drugs. He said no and she attacked him twice. He defended himself but since then he has found himself on dvo charges brought on by the cops. 

I feel for my brother as he is a good person and dad but no one is listening to him. The cops wont take away the charges as they see it as domestic volence. They dont see it as self defense. The x sister in law wants the charges dropped but the cops wont drop them. My mum is as she puts it hitting her head against a brick wall trying to get someone to listen to her about this as my brother is an abused husband the victim. Mum says it is not the normal run of the mill case as he is a bloke not a lady. Only ladies get abused not husbands. My brother has stood by his family as his x is a druggy and cant look after the 5 kids properly. He has been their protector.

What I want to do is help my brother and his kids but I dont know how to do it..I dont know who to get mum or brother to talk to. I dont want my brother to kill himself as this is what my mum has been thinking he might do. My brother and mum need help.

Is there anyone out there who could tell me what to say to my brother to help him please? And my mum? Can someone please please help me.... 

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Why don't you explain why you pasted this thread into your other thread.

[imastawka]

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@2106greencat wrote:

I might type fast, but my brain is slow, LOL

I can not figure how posts from one thread got quoted here, and why Icy is in the poo ATM - am I just really slow or is there some inner hidden message I am missing ?

Edited to say - don't worry about it, think I would rather stay in the dark and carry on happily in my ignorance.

*waves to Icy*

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  I just got here and my brain is about to explode!

 We can sit together over here gc>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>     

[icyfroth]

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Why don't you explain why you pasted this thread into your other thread.

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Because I found it relevant.

Proof pls as to your accusation.

[punch*drunk]

We used to have an NFI thread

[love*today]

I agree that this is a good discussion for people to have.

Especially seeing that it has touched many people here. I hope this thread doesn't go.

I have a question and feel that the mix of posters and experience here could be of help but maybe we should start another thread incase the OP is for real and comes back to this being all over the place?

[bluecat*dancing]

I don't know who the herbto3 id belongs to but I do understand why the finger has been pointed at Icy. A robust discussion about the pros and cons of marijuana use occurs, then a thread about drugs being the cause of DV suddenly appears so it does look a bit suss. However, if the OP is not genuine, it could be anyone starting a thread to **bleep**stir and not necessarily anyone who even posted on the other thread.

*takes off detective hat and places peg on nose.....*

[cherry*135]

"At least explain why she cut and paste this thread into her other thread..... seems bizarre to me."

Because this thread mentions in the opening post a person who uses drugs and exhibits bad behaviour?

The other thread is about drug use.

Connection between the 2 threads - the inference that illicit drug use is bad. . Using the example of the woman in the opening post of this thread as an example of the posters view on drug use.

[icyfroth]

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@punch*drunk wrote:

I think most ppl know my alter-ID here, and that 's not it.

I dont!  lol, can barely remember my own alternate id

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It's certainly not herbto. I like to think I'd find something a bit more imaginative than that!

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@icyfroth wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Why don't you explain why you pasted this thread into your other thread.

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Because I found it relevant.

Proof pls as to your accusation.

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You have that......review your browser history.

[*crikey*mate*]

OR

it could well be a genuine thread started by a regular poster who didn't feel comfortable asking the question under their usual ID

Maybe they saw Icy's thread and it sparked something, gave them the courage to ask about their experience.

At the end iof the day, does it matter?

It is a topic that should be discussed.

The days of hiding this stuff, being ashamed about being a victim of it and never talking about it have to come to an end.