My son got himself kicked out of school (aspergers)

[ashjoma]

My very difficult aspergers 15 year old has got himself kicked out of school for refusal to do any work / ignoring and back talk.

He did finish year 10

I've enrolled him in tafe today, starting tomorrow. He is now telling me he can't be bothered attending

Anyone else been down this path ?

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

I haven't........ but  it must be a very difficult time for you........

[imastawka]

Asperger's are usually sticklers for routine.

He just sounds like an average 15 yo to me - 'can't be bothered' is very

common amongst 15 year olds.

I have an 8 yo grandson with mild aspergers.  Talking back is very common.

So is ignoring.

Didn't they have a programme for him at school?

[gleee58]

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@ashjoma wrote:
My very difficult aspergers 15 year old has got himself kicked out of school for refusal to do any work / ignoring and back talk.

He did finish year 10

I've enrolled him in tafe today, starting tomorrow. He is now telling me he can't be bothered attending

Anyone else been down this path ?

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Did he choose the course at TAFE?

Is there something he is truly interested in that might be used as a subject/course to lure him into TAFE?

What a dilemma. I hope you find a solution for him. It must be a worry and a half.

[curmu-curmu]

I'm probably teaching you how to suck eggs, but the trick with the majority of young adults with Asperger's, seems to be, to find something they absolutely adore, for them to fixate on.

Whilst I have 3 children - none of whom suffer from Aspergers, I did work very closely with young adult Aspergers sufferers for a number of years, assisting them integrate into the wider society - and attempting to have them learn basics of social behaviours, manners, money and especially, the concept of sex and their lack of inhibitions, was...let's just say, challenging!

We achieved far greater success with our clients by identifying what was really important to each one, and structuring their learning around that premise.

There's a link below to a support group - if you haven't already been in touch - and there are many more. Scope also comes to mind.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Parenting-Aspergers-Children-Support-Group/101589699900722

[icyfroth]

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@ashjoma wrote:
My very difficult aspergers 15 year old has got himself kicked out of school for refusal to do any work / ignoring and back talk.

He did finish year 10

I've enrolled him in tafe today, starting tomorrow. He is now telling me he can't be bothered attending

Anyone else been down this path ?

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Yes. My Grandson. 22. Borderline autistic. Addicted to all sorts of substances. Refuses counselling and no-one can force him.

We've cut him loose.

Not suggesting  you do the same, but perhaps give him a bit of time. Respect his wishes, if possible.

[ashjoma]

He's enrolled in the tertiary preparation course and is doing English, maths, biology

From there he can go into some ? IT

Choices are limited as a small tafe Not a metropolitan area

[ashjoma]

Small school, limited resources. Teachers have been great but they have had enough.

[gleee58]

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@ashjoma wrote:
He's enrolled in the tertiary preparation course and is doing English, maths, biology

From there he can go into some ? IT

Choices are limited as a small tafe Not a metropolitan area

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Does that mean he's a bit IT obsessed?

Could he get a train to a TAFE further from home if he is keen on a course offered?

[*pepe]

Asperger's or not he has to learn life is not all about what he wants.

If he doesn't want to do his job of  going to school then he has to deal with the consequences.

I'd provide him with the basic necessities and nothing else until he started doing what is required of him.