Neighbour problems how to handle them in a way that lasts.

[margomeoz]

I have had problems with this neighbour forever 30 years.

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First problem she asked to share our TV antenna and add a thing to get more channels, we said yes and for 2 months it worked fine then we go no reception at all, she had disconnected the antenna from our house and moved it to the other side of hers, I asked for it to be returned to our house the way it was in the first place.

They bought it back alright and just dumped it on our front lawn.

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Next problem my teenage daughter decided she wanted to leave home because I was too strict to allow her out after10pm when she was 16, she needed money to do this so she asked the neighbour to tell centerlink

that she was an abused child, the neighbour did this causing me no ends of problems.

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Now after 20 years have passed and we should all be settled I got a leak in the ceiling caused because she has her stink pipe on our roof been there for years without my noticing this, anyway I got this fixed at our expense $1500 and asked her to get her pipe onto her own roof.

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So this new problem could be retaliation but in the last month 4 times we have had her grandkids throw orange peels and bits of orange over the fence all over our yard and in the spa.

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We have let it go but my husband is too old to be picking all this stuff up if it continues, how is the best way to handle this?

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I really don't feel like going through a third generation thing with grandkids. ?

[margomeoz]

I'd be sending her a letter explaining the problems and saying that if the situation is not resolved immediately you will be either calling the police or taking legal advice.  Or, both.  

How is your daughter now?  

Hi Katy my daughter is good now married with a daughter wonder if she will cause her mother the same problems. 😄

Those teenage years are the pits when the hormones kick in just hope my three remember theirs when dealing with their kids.

[cherry*135]

Take photos of the orange peels in your yard and put the date on each one, incase you need to take it further with the council or who ever.

Would the pipe being on your roof instead of hers also be something the council could look in to? Or has she already moved it since you had to get your roof fixed?

Bad luck for you that the annoying neighbour hasn't moved sometimes in the last 30 yrs.

[margomeoz]

am*3 that is an excellent idea off to take some photo's now.

The pipe has been removed because she would not pay even half to get my roof fixed when it was the poor workmanship of her people who caused the leak in the first place, but she still wanted a cheap job done as opposed to getting the best job done, so I told her to remove the pipe to her roof and paid for my own.

[katydidthat]

I had a neighbour throw junk into my yard.  I let it go for a while, then I saw a half brick being thrown near my little son.  I lost it.  I threw all of it back into their yard, while yelling at them about what I would do if I found so much as a cigarette butt again.  LOL, they ran and hid.  They never did it again, though.  

Thing is ... if they are rude enough to do things like this, au fond, they are neither civilised nor nice.  And, that makes it difficult to deal with them.  

[cherry*135]

I think now days when you can take digital photos or even have a video camera set up in the yard, bad neighbours can't get away with half the stuff they used to be able to. It was all he said, she said stuff before and hard for any authorities to know what side was telling the truth. Now you can take photos with a mobile phone, catch them in action.. use a video camera etc...all to prove your side of the story.

[the_hawk*]

Hi Margo many years ago when we lived in the burbs the neighbors kids thought it was funny to throw stones over the fence onto our lawn, I let it go for a while then went next door and them to send to kids over to pick them all up, that kept them occupied for a few hours.

If that doesn't work, go buy a bike and join a club and have them come around to your place every week end to party. 😉

[margomeoz]

Ha Ha hawk I have already done the party trick on them years ago when they did the TV thing to me, We used to have great Spa parties fits 8 at a time so took all our drink and nibbles in and had a great time till after midnight.

They used to poke their head over the fence and say when are you turning the jets off,

my answer when I feel like it. 😄

Could be well worth doing again it is freezing here so could use a spa.

[beach_and_home]

I think the quickest and best way to end the problems are to go and talk to them. As someone else said, just say "look can we sit down and talk and find a way to just get along, it's been 30 years". Confrontation is the hardest way to deal with problem people. However it almost always works to solve the problem. Sending them a letter, reporting them to council etc etc is just dancing around the issue and will not end it.

[annies_fancy_dress]

Some people are just ferals 😞

[deadly-night-shade]

Hi, so sorry to hear about your neighbour dramas. I have had so many over the years, our 1860's houses weatherboard houses are joined and the houses either side are always rented out to 5 or more 20 year olds, who like playing bongos, guitars etc, every new lot is a clone of the last lot!  I'm not sure what state you are in but I once used this service -  http://www.disputes.vic.gov.au/ They were really helpful. Usually they talk with you and then send out a letter outlining the issues and asking for a dispute settlement hearing with the neighbour. I know it's hard, but try to remain civil as things can escalate into an out of control situation before you know it. Good luck.