One in Three (or One in Two): The untold story of male victims of family/domestic violence

[4c4sale]

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

[katydidthat · Accepted solution]

Thanks, Love.

Michael Flood began his academic life in Canberra and started a group of men looking at what triggered their violence - it was one of the first of its kind. Since then, he's been very active in researching the area of domestic violence.

For those who don't click on links, this is his conclusion:

"In relation to domestic violence between adults, we should continue to focus largely on men’s violence against women. And to devote most service responses and resources to this.

More widely, we must address violence against men, which is overwhelmingly male-male violence.

I’ve argued that we need to pay attention to the detail of both women’s and men’s experiences of victimisation and perpetration: to the character of violence and abuse, to their dynamics and meaning, to their impact, and to their contexts.
Otherwise, we will commit errors of fact, of theory, and of intervention.

Errors of fact: We will fail to recognise the true pattern, the actual pattern, of domestic and family violence.

Errors of theory: We will be unable to properly explain domestic and family violence – to identify predictors and social and structural causes.

Errors of intervention: And as a result of the first two, we will adopt strategies of intervention which are inappropriate for many victims, or do not apply to the kinds of violence they’re being used for.

If we don’t pay attention to the realities of women’s and men’s experiences of domestic and family violence, we will fail both female and male victims alike."

[katydidthat]

Which figures, Siggie?

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

That 75 men are killed in domestic violence circumstances each year...... one every ten days.....

Didn't someone say that is a ABS figure?

[lloydslights · Accepted solution]

The topic is ....."male victims of family/domestic violence"

There is no denial that women may and do suffer from the disgraceful actions of others.  And support has grown for their plight.

Just as there is ongoing support for the reporting of children in similar circumstances.

We've become aware of workplace bullying.  And procedures for its discontinuation.

Most of us won't put up with animal abuse.

However, now is the time for the awareness of males being domestically violated.  

Actually, "violence" may be the wrong word; to me it implies only physical bashing.

Mental abuse can be far more damaging.  

Some women can be so cruel with their words.  Downtrodden males; nagged into depression; suppression;leading to suicide or lashing out physically at the one that is causing the pain.  (And consequently, leading to the media headlines of "Wife beaten to death by Husband" and subsequent "government-report-findings" being misrepresented.)

And sometimes these males murder their loved ones and then suicide.

The Men's Shed movement is accepted by us as legitimate assistance for males.

Let's align our compassion for abused males with that same compassion we should have for all human beings 

DEB

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@4c4sale wrote:

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

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I have not seen the evidence which supports that statement.

Figures are being thrown around.....  Facts show men are the major aggressors not women.

[karliandjacko]

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@katydidthat wrote:
http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Men_as_Victims.pdf

http://www.xyonline.net/content/he-hits-she-hits-assessing-debates-regarding-men%E2%80%99s-and-women...

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Thanks Katy

Conclusion
Clearly, men’s experiences as victims of domestic violence, either in heterosexual or
gay relationships, are quite different from the experiences of women. Analysis
needs to focus on the experiences of men in their own right and to not fall into the
trap of asserting that men are just as likely to experience violence and abuse as
women. It is recognised that men’s experiences of abuse are insufficiently
acknowledged and the challenge for those making criticisms is to conduct research
to improve men’s access to supports. It is evident from the current discourse on this
issue that future research could look to further understand the contextual, power and
impact differences between men’s experiences and women’s experiences of partner
violence in heterosexual and same-sex relationships. Research methodology that
results in material being used inappropriately to substantiate a particular viewpoint
about violence can only create division and does nothing to inform the field about the
complexities involved.

[katydidthat]

DEB, I would be only too happy to discuss violence against men within a family situation, if almost all studies did not significantly contradict the claims made in the first link.

[ruloinfovoter]

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

That 75 men are killed in domestic violence circumstances each year...... one every ten days.....

Didn't someone say that is a ABS figure?

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Nah, you got that wrong, it said 75 men were killed in domestic homicide incidents between 2008-2010.

Sheesh.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@4c4sale wrote:

From the link:

KEY FACTS AND STATS

At least one in three victims of family violence is male

One male is a victim of domestic homicide every 10 days

Almost one in four young people are aware of their mum/stepmum hitting their dad/stepdad

Male and female victims of reported domestic assault receive very similar numbers and types of injuries

Males are almost three times less likely to report being a victim of domestic violence to the police

Post-separation, similar proportions of men and women report experiencing physical violence including threats by their former spouse 

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Then what government agency produced that figure? And where can it be found on the government website?

[karliandjacko]

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

That 75 men are killed in domestic violence circumstances each year...... one every ten days.....

Didn't someone say that is a ABS figure?

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Nah, you got that wrong, it said 75 men were killed in domestic homicide incidents between 2008-2010.

Sheesh.

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If that is the case you should have no trouble providing a link to the ABS to confirm that assertion.