One in Three (or One in Two): The untold story of male victims of family/domestic violence

[4c4sale]

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

[karliandjacko]

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

Perhaps if you go back and re-read/note the post I was responding to it would clear it up for you.  

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So go back and imagine the think is not there.

[ruloinfovoter · Accepted solution]

Yes, good one, a race to the end of the domestic abuse.

[4c4sale]

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@am*3 wrote:

May 2014

Assistant Commissioner Mark Murdoch is the New South Wales police spokesman on domestic violence and an ambassador for White Ribbon, the campaign to stop violence against women.

"Men need to wake up to the fact that it is a men's problem. It is perpetrated by men who use their power and control over women and until ... they wake up to that fact, nothing's going to change," he said.

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-05-05/domestic-violence-reaches-epidemic-proportions/5426214

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Women AND men need to wake up to many things, one of which is the reality that women are the majority abusers.

Both genders are perpetrators.

Both genders are victims.

Calling it a problem of men using their power over women misses the MAJORITY of the problem, and discounts the very source of the MAJORITY of abuse.

Women.

This gent may be right about some men in some situations, but he's misses the largest part of the picture in discounting women as the majority perpetrators, and in claiming that all men abuse for the same reason.

In short, he's very, very wrong.

[ruloinfovoter]

I don't care to imagine things, LOL.  Not relevant in a serious debate regarding domestic abuse.

Make believe or pretending an opinion is fact, well it just doesn't cut it, not for me anyway  

[cherry*135]

Revealed: the women we failed

March 2014 - Sydney Morning Herald

39% of homicides in NSW are domestic violence related

593 homicides were due to domestic violence between 2003 - 2013

76% of domestic homicides are committed by men.

Three-quarters of all women killed in NSW die at the hands of their loved ones, an official statistic that has led NSW Police Commissioner Andrew Scipione to warn that domestic violence is one of the ''biggest issues modern society has to face''.

Mr Scipione said NSW police deal with about 370 instances of domestic and family violence a day. Studies show less than half of instances are reported.

Mr Scipione said domestic violence occurred across all cultures and socio-economic groups. ''There are women who are offenders we have to deal with as well. It even transcends gender.''


Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/revealed-the-women-we-failed-20140307-34cs2.html#ixzz3DjOAkwRH

[4c4sale]

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@katydidthat wrote:

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@4c4sale wrote:

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Katy... I was just scrolling through all the links.....I am actually astounded by the number of them....

I wonder how many men realise the resources that are available.

Funding to advertise these services might be beneficial.

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How many resources for being the victim of domestic abuse?

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I thought it had already been shown that women were the main victims of domestic violence, not men.  

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The combined group (men/children/the elderly) make up the majority of those abused, and women are the majority abusers.

But many women are abused as well, and both the abused and the abusers need help, not disbelief.

[thegoblinswillgetu]

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

Perhaps if you go back and re-read the post I was responding to it would clear it up for you.  

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Does that make your claims fact?

I think not.

Claiming you won a debate is totally off topic don't you think.

Especially when the debate is still going on.

Regardless of ones stance on the topic.

Being in any type of abusive relationship, whether it is a heterosexual, gay, child abuse, sexual abuse or bullying.

The end result can be life changing.

So I would hope your purpose in being a part of this debate would be to get "awareness" out there, and not just worry about winning.

[4c4sale]

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@am*3 wrote:

Revealed: the women we failed

March 2014 - Sydney Morning Herald

39% of homicides in NSW are domestic violence related

593 homicides were due to domestic violence between 2003 - 2013

76% of domestic homicides are committed by men.

Three-quarters of all women killed in NSW die at the hands of their loved ones, an official statistic that has led NSW Police Commissioner Andrew Scipione to warn that domestic violence is one of the ''biggest issues modern society has to face''.

Mr Scipione said NSW police deal with about 370 instances of domestic and family violence a day. Studies show less than half of instances are reported.

Mr Scipione said domestic violence occurred across all cultures and socio-economic groups. ''There are women who are offenders we have to deal with as well. It even transcends gender.''


Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/revealed-the-women-we-failed-20140307-34cs2.html#ixzz3DjOAkwRH

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And yet women commit the majority of domestic abuse overall.

Let's get help to everyone who needs it: the victims and their abusers.

[4c4sale]

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@thegoblinswillgetu wrote:

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

Perhaps if you go back and re-read the post I was responding to it would clear it up for you.  

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Does that make your claims fact?

I think not.

Claiming you won a debate is totally off topic don't you think.

Especially when the debate is still going on.

Regardless of ones stance on the topic.

Being in any type of abusive relationship, whether it is a heterosexual, gay, child abuse, sexual abuse or bullying.

The end result can be life changing.

So I would hope your purpose in being a part of this debate would be to get "awareness" out there, and not just worry about winning.

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A win here constitutes spreading awareness, so a win is a good thing. 

[cherry*135]

And yet women commit the majority of domestic abuse overall.

Have you proved that to be true in this thread? Homicide statistics for female domestic violence victims don't support that view.

The Australian Greens proposal for a Senate Inquiry into domestic violence has passed the Senate with tri-partisan support today.

“Sadly one Australian woman a week is murdered as a result of domestic violence. This is a national tragedy and it has to stop,” Senator Larissa Waters, Australian Greens spokesperson for women, said

“The inquiry will investigate the prevalence of domestic violence, contributing factors and the adequacy of government responses.

“In particular, the inquiry will look at the prevalence and effect of domestic violence on women living with a disability and women from Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander backgrounds.

The Senate Inquiry will report on 27 October 2014