One in Three (or One in Two): The untold story of male victims of family/domestic violence

[4c4sale]

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

[ruloinfovoter]

Yes indeedy, a win, win.

Loves those.

[4c4sale]

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@am*3 wrote:

And yet women commit the majority of domestic abuse overall.

Have you proved that to be true in this thread? Homicide statistics for female domestic violence victims don't support that view.

The Australian Greens proposal for a Senate Inquiry into domestic violence has passed the Senate with tri-partisan support today.

“Sadly one Australian woman a week is murdered as a result of domestic violence. This is a national tragedy and it has to stop,” Senator Larissa Waters, Australian Greens spokesperson for women, said

“The inquiry will investigate the prevalence of domestic violence, contributing factors and the adequacy of government responses.

“In particular, the inquiry will look at the prevalence and effect of domestic violence on women living with a disability and women from Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander backgrounds.

The Senate Inquiry will report on 27 October 2014

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Homicide is a relatively rare occurence, and only constitutes a small part of the domestic abuse landscape.

Focussing on that one small area is going to distort your ability to see the entire picture.

[cherry*135]

From my post above: Assistant Commissioner Mark Murdoch is the New South Wales police spokesman

How could this man be very very wrong? The police are the ones who have to deal with domestic violence face to face.

[thegoblinswillgetu]

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@4c4sale wrote:

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@thegoblinswillgetu wrote:

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

Perhaps if you go back and re-read the post I was responding to it would clear it up for you.  

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Does that make your claims fact?

I think not.

Claiming you won a debate is totally off topic don't you think.

Especially when the debate is still going on.

Regardless of ones stance on the topic.

Being in any type of abusive relationship, whether it is a heterosexual, gay, child abuse, sexual abuse or bullying.

The end result can be life changing.

So I would hope your purpose in being a part of this debate would be to get "awareness" out there, and not just worry about winning.

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A win here constitutes spreading awareness, so a win is a good thing. 

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No, you and steppefjordwyfe10  are wrong.

There is no winning

A good and honest debate would get awareness out there,

Even if it only opened up the eyes of those who post and lurk here.

[shepherdsrule]

am, quite a few here on this thread are US based, so may be not so in touch with the stat's in Oz.

As to DV - male, female, parent, child.....it needs to be addressed, but many, out of fear of further retribution tend to hide the issue and would not dream of reporting it - I think that would be most true of males, what self respecting male wants to cry 'abuse' by a female spouse ?but it happens and it is just as debilitating as it is for women victims.

Many women, just accept it as their lot because they beleive they have nowhere to go, no way to support themselves, until it spills over to thier child, and then finally the woman realises how dangerous it can be to the innocent that they are maternally wired to protect.

DV on any scale is abhorant, sadly, many push it aside and hope it will go away.

[ruloinfovoter · Accepted solution]

Yes, a good and honest debate is exactly what 4c and I have achieved in regard to this topic.  The topic, as it happens, is about male victims of domestic abuse and the need to recognize this, not deflect from it but hopefully end it for them, for all.

Not really hard to grasp I wouldn't think.

I suggest again a review.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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gottabecareful wrote:

am, quite a few here on this thread are US based, so may be not so in touch with the stat's in Oz.

As to DV - male, female, parent, child.....it needs to be addressed, but many, out of fear of further retribution tend to hide the issue and would not dream of reporting it - I think that would be most true of males, what self respecting male wants to cry 'abuse' by a female spouse ?but it happens and it is just as debilitating as it is for women victims.

Many women, just accept it as their lot because they beleive they have nowhere to go, no way to support themselves, until it spills over to thier child, and then finally the woman realises how dangerous it can be to the innocent that they are maternally wired to protect.

DV on any scale is abhorant, sadly, many push it aside and hope it will go away.

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 I quoted a figure earlier on from the ABS that 81.1% of women who experience sexual assault, don't report it to the police.

That's a massive number, that needs to change, and the perpetrators charged..... 

[shepherdsrule]

Agreed - but many feel they are on trial, NOT the perpetrator, so they let it go and try to forget it happenned, or worse, question themselves, was I to blame, did I say, do, initmate something etc.

Not ideal, but until you have lived it, it is not a call any of us can make, not realistically or emotionally.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

Some in society  need to stop blaming women, for something that was done to them..... then things might change.

[shepherdsrule]

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

Yes, a good and honest debate is exactly what 4c and I have achieved in regard to this topic.  The topic, as it happens, is about male victims of domestic abuse and the need to recognize this, not deflect from it but hopefully end it for them, for all.

Not really hard to grasp I wouldn't think.

I suggest again a review.

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in this case, it is serious, but as an Aussie I can only respond as to what I know of our laws, I have no reason to abide or be advised of another country's laws, I live here and this is where I want the change to take place.

With all due respect to our US friends.