One in Three (or One in Two): The untold story of male victims of family/domestic violence

[4c4sale]

This is a seriously undertold story, and this website is a good place to learn the truth about the staggering number of male victims of domestic abuse in Australia:

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/

Men are MUCH less likely (three times less likely it seems) to report being battered and attacked by their female partners than women who are attacked by men, and further, men have less support if they do speak out.

Men may face scorn, derision and disbelief when they report being abused.

If one considers the vastly lower reporting of these incidents by men, and combines this with the higher number of women who abuse children, it arises that women - not men - are the majority domestic abusers in Australia, Great Britain and the United States.

Time to start spreading this truth, and working for change on BOTH sides of the gender equation.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

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@am*3 wrote:
Homicides
• For the period July 2008 and June 2010, there were 510 homicide incidents recorded of which 122 were intimate partner homicides (Chan A & Payne J 2013, p.5). Women made up the large majority of these victims (73%; n=89) (p.19).

http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Fast_Facts_9.pdf

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That would mean in the two year period 33 were men..... and we don't know if they were killed by a man or women.

[thegoblinswillgetu]

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@katydidthat wrote:

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@karliandjacko wrote:

Another point the OP misses is that most often when women are violent the partner is also violent.

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I agree, Karli ... another issue is the degree of damage that can be done by most women to most men.  

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When was the last time we saw a woman knock a man out in an elevator?

[ruloinfovoter]

And because someone hasn't seen something, then it has never happened I suppose?  

[4c4sale]

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@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:

Screen shots from the ABS website show women suffer more domestic violence than men.

I don't know how the OP has come the conclusion  that women are the major abusers.

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Majority abusers.

By combining reported female on male violence with reported female on child and elder violence, one arrives at women as the majority.

One should also factor in that males are MUCH less likely to report abuse than females, as this gives a clearer picture of what males are suffering. (Suspected female under-reporting should be factored in as well, but at a lower number, as women have the lion's share of support while also being the majority abusers by gender.)

Also note that we're speaking about domestic/family violence, and not a larger arena.

[siggie-reported-by-alarmists]

I feel for abused men... no human has the right to violate another....I also feel for abused women for the same reason.

It's a shame this thread/topic wasn't started  with an OP stating the facts rather than misinformation and opinion.

[4c4sale]

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@karliandjacko wrote:

Another point the OP misses is that most often when women are violent the partner is also violent.

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Do you have a source for this?

[lealta]

Where are you getting your statistics on the number of women who abuse their children and/or seniors?  I'd like to see that report.  Also, the title of YOUR topic is the "untold story of male victiims of family/domestic violence, not women beating their children.

[4c4sale]

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@karliandjacko wrote:

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@lloydslights wrote:

The topic is ....."male victims of family/domestic violence"

There is no denial that women may and do suffer from the disgraceful actions of others.  And support has grown for their plight.

Just as there is ongoing support for the reporting of children in similar circumstances.

We've become aware of workplace bullying.  And procedures for its discontinuation.

Most of us won't put up with animal abuse.

However, now is the time for the awareness of males being domestically violated.  

Actually, "violence" may be the wrong word; to me it implies only physical bashing.

Mental abuse can be far more damaging.  

Some women can be so cruel with their words.  Downtrodden males; nagged into depression; suppression;leading to suicide or lashing out physically at the one that is causing the pain.  (And consequently, leading to the media headlines of "Wife beaten to death by Husband" and subsequent "government-report-findings" being misrepresented.)

And sometimes these males murder their loved ones and then suicide.

The Men's Shed movement is accepted by us as legitimate assistance for males.

Let's align our compassion for abused males with that same compassion we should have for all human beings 

DEB

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Most of us don't condone violence against men and don't deny its existance.   The facts that can't be disputed are that women are much more likely to be on the receiving end of violence at the hands of men and more women are killed by men.

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Because men are more likely to kill in general, yes.

However, women commit MORE domestic/family violence overall.

[thegoblinswillgetu]

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@steppefjordwyfe10 wrote:

And because someone hasn't seen something, then it has never happened I suppose?  

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Well I think if the video was out there the media would run with it.

But it could have happened, I just asked when was the last time we'd seen it.

Sheesh!

[bluecat*dancing]

Yes, it is a shame because domestic violence is dreadful regardless of the gender of the perpetrator.