People Who Have Kids

[diannelovestriangles]

People who have kids think they are so hard done by, But did they really think before they had them that life wouldn't change. Obviously Not!. All i ever i hear is people constant complaining about how they can't afford or can't go to do whatever it is that they want to do , It comes down to consideration,budgeting and management, If you really cared about this you would have worked your way around to some form of affordability, if you choose to be a parent without talking into this accountability i don't feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for the children that your supposed to be responsible for and the things that they are missing out on.

People often say that the children are loved, well they might be loved but it's still not good enough. They need and require a lot more from a parent other then just ''love'' 

Statement' I'm not saying children have to be spoiled but at least do the right thing by them as a parent and provide the decent things that they require, To many kids miss out on the good things in childhood because their parents are to selfish to consider the impact that they will be causing on the child during the child's childhood.

[i-need-a-martini]

To(o) many kids miss out on the good things in childhood

Such as?

And by the way you confuse "to" with "too" a lot. It makes for a confusing read.

[i-need-a-martini]

They need and require a lot more from a parent other then just ''love'' 

And you are wrong.

The most important thing in the world for a child is love. Everything else is just a bonus.

[katydidthat]

Jonn, yes, I noticed 😉

[i-need-a-martini]

We all noticed.

[jonnjenn]

We all noticed.

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Hope no one starts a thread.......

 "Should prospective parents sit (and preferably pass)

a spelling /grammar test?"]:)]:)

(I'm out of here.)

[*crikey*mate*]

but to be fair - I've got to admit that whilst I realized there would be changes and I realized that kids would make an impact on my budget - I never in my life imagined that they would cost so much or need so many things LOL -

Sure you think of things like school, and a house and clothes etc

but it's the 150 types of nappy's or formula or bum cream or teething gels you have to try before you find the one that works best that's the killer..

or the billion different kinds of food you have to buy till you find what they'll eat

or the medicines, even the over the counter ones!

I never had any idea how many different types of cough medicines there were - and I'm no doctor - how am I supposed to know what type of bleedin cough they have???

There's just so many unexpected things that crop up, some you need, and others you feel you have to provide...

Kids cost money - that's a given, but ya just never realize how much they cost until you're elbow deep in last night's washing.

And kids take time as well - I just never realized how much time - just simple stuff like packing their nappy bag and getting them into their car seat, with the gazillion bits of paraphernalia they require plus your own...

I remember when it was 5 minutes to just duck down the shop - grab ya keys and wallet and off ya go - but bring a baby into the equation - especially one who doesn't want to go into their car seat and ......

[witches*wol]

I can kind of see your point.  We have 2 children and we planned for them and worked out our finances accordingly before we had them.  It doesn't mean we didn't get a few nasty financial surprises along the way, especially with a child with a disability which required a lot of therapy which didn't come cheap.  Still we readjusted our budget and managed accordingly.

We never expected to be able to have children and also afford a "jet setting lifestyle" but through careful planning and saving we have taken our kids on holidays, they have always had a safe, warm home to live in, clothes on their backs and plenty of food on the table.

The children I feel for are the ones where mum and dad have decided to have a large family even though they can only just afford to feed and cloth them.

We made a conscious decision to only have 2 kids because we figured with the income we have to work with we could afford to have a fairly descent lifestyle as a family of 4.  But anymore than 2 kids would mean there would have to be some serious sacrificing to be done.

We wanted to be able to afford for the kids to do one or two after school activities, to be able to take the kids to see a movie during the school holidays or go to the Zoo or something like that.  We wanted to be able to have take away food one night a week and to maybe afford to take the whole family out to dinner every few weeks etc.  If we had more kids there is no way we could do stuff like that.

[cherry*135]

I have children. I would send them to a work-house if I could.

[margomeoz]

You are so wrong even though I probably thought the same once.

My kids had everything they desired from nike shoes to $3000 guitars .

All they really wanted was my time which I could not give because I was so busy getting all these material things for them to keep up with their mates.

My choice not theirs.

[chuk_77]

I cant afford to got where I want and I cant do what I want to do and I do budget carefully, hence the reason I cant do what I want. eg. I want to buy a DB5

oh yeah, I have no kids. Im just a poor bogan from feralsville:|