I was wondering if anyone has tried this site and been a date??
Well I guess this has given you a chance to see what could happen when any undesireables answer your profile Nic!! 
Dirtygirl,
Not cool to potentially spook nicnacs off dating sites like that....
Sorry you went through so much pain, but after 36 years it may be time to move past it and let go of being so angry.
You're very lucky if you found a true, loving relationship - when it reads like you're not too at peace with in yourself.
Chill out and play nice!
Don't worry about those that make-up stories.
dg wrote: - they want a man with money and a good job
That doesn't apply to retired women ( or males searching for a new partner)
You cannot possibly know what "most" women want. You can only know what you and the people you associate with want. EVERY case is an "isolated "case because every woman is unique.
Very true, but I will give it a go.
Most women of all ages whether they know it or not would like -
Security, companionship, someone they can give love to, another to share wonderful experiences with.
Care and nurture someone, a person that listens and understands what is said. Affection when it's needed.
Affirmations of love and appreciations. Fun and laughter. As well as someone to grow old with.
Am I close?
As for dating sites, advice mentioned earlier is well given. Be very cautious, clever people know how to put their best foot forward and sell themselves. Finding the true person within can take time.
One of the most common mistakes individuals make when meeting people outside of their own network is to believe they are like the way we are. Hence positives thoughts can blurr reality.
And listening to family/friends whom sit on the fence can more than often see things than the hopeful dater doesn't.
Above all, if in doubt, don't.
@kopenhagen5 wrote:You cannot possibly know what "most" women want. You can only know what you and the people you associate with want. EVERY case is an "isolated "case because every woman is unique.
Very true, but I will give it a go.
Most women of all ages whether they know it or not would like -
Security, companionship, someone they can give love to, another to share wonderful experiences with.
Care and nurture someone, a person that listens and understands what is said. Affection when it's needed.
Affirmations of love and appreciations. Fun and laughter. As well as someone to grow old with.
Am I close?
Kopes, you've hit the nail right on the head and I sincerely doubt I could have put it any better myself. However, I believe that what you've stated above doesn't specifically apply only to women but just as equally to men as well. How do I know this? It's quite simple really, because that happens to be precisely what I aspire to as well. I'm convinced beyond any doubt whatsoever that for such a relationship to exist and grow, both parties need to be totally unselfish and completely giving of each other, unconditionally and without exception. It really is as simple as that, yet I've virtually resigned myself to living alone for the rest of my life because in our current society, the likelihood of finding a woman who is equally and similarly prepared to go to such extremes is extremely low.
It really is quite sad in many respects because as they get older most people seem to find it impossible to overcome the harm or damage that being in a long term unhappy or abusive relationship has caused and as a consequence they're just not prepared or unable to give 100% of themselves to prospective new partners because they're afraid that the same thing may happen again, and whilst I can fully understand their reluctance to do so, unless they can lower those barriers and learn to completely trust and love again, any new relationships are destined to fail, and it's nowhere near as easy as it sounds.
It's been over 5 years since my partner of 28 years walked out on me completely unexpectedly, yet it's only in the last 18 months or so that I've finally overcome the terrible sense of betrayal and abandonment that I felt as a result, and even then, it was only possible thanks to a very close and dear friend of mine for whom I have the utmost love and respect, not to mention my eternal appreciation for finally making me realise that I do have the ability to give of myself completely to the right person, but knowing how much pain I went through during that process, I'm well aware that many women who were in similar situations won't have recovered to anwhere near the same degree that I did, which is why I very much doubt that I'll ever find myself in another long-term relationship, although that certainly won't prevent me from continuing my search.
The biggest problem that men and women who are seeking relationships seem to have is in finding the right venue in which to meet, and having checked out a few of these so-called dating sites, I'm of the opinion that there has to be something better, but many of us don't particularly enjoy going to pubs or clubs, which tends to limit the opportunities of meeting other people to other less popular social venues, but I've not been actively single long enough to have discovered what these may be just yet. Anyway, the whole point of my reply was essentially to agree with Kopes when he gave his opinion of what he believes most women are looking for, and I think I've done that more than adequately.
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